Hi, all. Im talking this in Indian context, Let me talk about me first and what made me to ask this question in second. I had a decent job, decent saving, and a future plan. Had average looks and a nice behaviour. My behaviour case is recognized and appraised by many of my friends that im kind hearted, charismatic and one who always keeps positive vibes. But, still today, i put my full attention on my career and life building and now got a continuing clear path and landed on my dream job. After achieving this, i thought, its time to get into a relationship and tried going out and socializing with girls more in parks, DJ parties and hangouts with friends. I was not that much confident when speaking with girls, that flaw is identified and fixed by socializing more and more but still some other psychological or other unidentified factors are putting me down from getting into a relationship. Most Girlfriends that i had will go easily around me with full vibe when i was in a role of friend for her , but when i escalate it into build a relationship, it will fail. I feel like the wait is over and always i centralize my mind to keep focusing on career, but i need a support from opposite mate now. I need to break the waiting. Friends of my age at the mean time had 2-3 relationships managing simultaneously is a catalyst for my these kinds of thought, I checked each and every factors even on psychological level, and i had a good ranking on every things girls look on the guys for a relationship and still im failing. I dont want to be too clingy or i never do force the womens to fall in love with me. Can you mates, please help me to figure it out? What will be i missing and how can i correct myself? Thanks in advance.
You are looking at it the wrong way:
1. One woman's treasure is another's trash. One person's charisma is another offensive, You gotta stop adjusting yourself, just be yourself and look for a woman who meets what you actually want, one that shares your hobbies, interests, goals, lifestyle, sense of humor, needs, etc. You wanna be clingy? Get a clingy girlfriend, everyone is clingy with the perfect match. You do not need to correct yourself, you need to stop settling and stop changing yourself to impress, its a date. not a job interview, this person has to love YOU, not what you offer them.
2. Ignore psychology, everyone goes through psychological hell at some point, good couples stick around during the best times, and the worst. Never sit there saying state of mind or happiness level or emotional status is any kind of barrier, it's not, be a wreck when you need to, a keeper will stay and make it better.
3. Never pause career or lifestyle for dating, and never pause dating for cereer or lifestyle, you should have been doing both at once, your status and success in life has zero impact on the right match, any woman who disagrees, is gold digiging trash.
4, ignore vibes, actually spend time to genuinly get to know a person as friends before hitting on her.
5. Don't use women to test out how you should think or act, women, just like men, are individuals, what one loves, another will hate.
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Well, one thing you have to know and I think for the uneducated it isn't obvious and that is that average girls are attracted to average guys. What you find is most people are average and so if you want to find someone it is best to go into an environment that is uncommon or unpopular. Also, when I say uneducated I don't mean educated in the western sense.
A ghetto girl may not find a wealthy man attractive because she is not a fit for him. She doesn't relate to him. That is why I believe the best women are those who rebel against their cultures because they are usually more accepting of all people. They are also willing to be creative and think for themselves.
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