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I created a dating profile 3 weeks ago to get some confidence since I was going through an insecure time, wasn’t really looking for anyone. Some men messaged me, but one guy stood out. He gave off this “I come as is” vibe which struck a cord with me for some reason so I exchanged socials with him to remain contact and deleted the app. Time continues and we’re talking every day, and things are going great.

He disclosed that he had to join the army right out of high school since he had gotten his then-girlfriend pregnant and now has a baby girl. He just started working a full time job and plans to go to a community college to earn his degree whereas I’m in graduate school with no kids. I understood him and we continued to grow from there. Then, the other night, I told him to visit me (we live 2 hours away from each other, and I requested that we meet in the middle so drive isn’t too bad).

He disclosed he didn’t have a paycheck from his job yet but would only need about $40 for gas. I paid for his gas, food, and toy for his dog while we hanged out the following day. He then asked me what particular app we met on since he had over 5 that has been used for over a month. He stated that girls would talk for a couple of days then leave, but I never left so he deleted them all (or he claims). He had a very neutral decision on sex like “if you want it, sure. If not, it’s fine.” But we ended up having sex anyway because I was very smitten with him at that time.

I asked if we were together as boyfriend/girlfriend since the first date went great and he said he likes me but not ready for that yet since he wants to know me more (even though I told him I’m an open-book) and wants to go on more dates. I agreed since I didn’t really have a choice and now after a day has passed, he isn’t really talking to me much and doesn’t seem interested anymore like leaving me on read. I’m not sure what to do because I spent over $100 on the date and was hoping he’d help pay some of that back.

OptionA- 5,4 height , good looking, small physique, straightA, mature, good at many things, school captain, cool, leadership qualities are good, hypocrite (sometimes), controlling, knows how to mange feelings, has hidden dark side that no one knows about, average sense of humour, average popularity,

OptionB- 5,7 height, more than average looks, normal physique, above average grades, popular outgoing and overactive and good sense of humor, all rounder in music dance and sports ( famous for her singing skills), good leadership, house captain ( somewhat less prominent than school captain), cheerfully, over reactive and sometimes overacting, clumsy and some times dumb, a hidden persona (she acts like she is all good and cheerfully playing actively but is actually depressed insecure and even though she acts like she likes everyone deep inside her she have people she doesn't like but she don't have guts to say it cause she does not want to be hated by anyone), pushover