Why do some people use online dating platforms to insult others?

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I joined an online dating site recently. Used some of my best photos which are good quality photos I used on my professional camera, but since I’ve been on it (only a week) I’ve had to close my profile because I matched with a man and all he did was insult me from the get-go.

The first message he sent me he called me a clout chaser (no idea what that meant so I had to look it up) and it means someone who is obsessed with gaining status and popularity which I’m not trying to do, I’m just on the dating site to date people and find someone I want to be with. Then when I challenged him on that he said that I am insecure and use filters in my photos, that I look like a tranny, and said that no wonder I am single at 28 years old because no one would want me. I looked at his photos and he looked very unhappy. There was one mirror selfie where he wasn’t even smiling so I don’t know why he felt room to insult me or my photos.

Why did he match with me just to insult me?

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

He was just boosting his ego at best. Likely he was trying a spot of negging.

You should have hit him back with "No wonder you're getting zero matches - you've the personality, and charm, of a plain pretzel".

These sorts of trolls are on every platform and they are easily defeated with charm. You know your value and you know something like that is not what you're after. Just move on and be happy you've met a a troll and can spot your next ones by their opening lines.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

Because they gave up any hope of trying to attract someone, OBVIOUSLY.
https://www.girlsaskguys.com/social-relationships/q4833423-would-i-be-a-jerk-or-smart-if-i-did-this-on-dating-apps
I don't really blame them. Everyone in online dating is horrible. The trolls are just more honest about it. And some of those people are just hackers using someone else's account.

hotwife98 · Accepted Answer

Angry people who can't get dates/a life use those platforms to insult anyone they see. Don't take it personally.  Move on with your life and show them that they aren't worth thinking about.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Guess white men are like that. I have never been insulted by any Indian guy on a dating website. They call me Goddess, princess etc. I like that type of guys.

Pinay_ako · Answer

The best response to a bully/hater is no response.

007kingifrit · Answer

first off you don't need to close your profile, just use the block or report buttons, preferably both

second, how is your actual PROFILE. not your pictures, your PROFILE, your pictures get us to look, your profile makes us message you. if your profile is blank you are only going to get guys who have nothing to say except that they want sex

Alex8736 · Answer

You really don't need to delete your profile but with online trolls that talk smack all you have to do is delete and block them. From what you explained is the guy is a narcissist talking about himself in 3rd person. People like that are toxic and it's best not responding to them and just block them

AdithyaR · Answer

People like that are just bitter and mean folks. He probably just did all that in some pathetic attempt to feel powerful and better than you. Clearly he's far below you, ignore him.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m sorry you had to deal with that. Wait a f*cking moron.

You know the odds are VERY against guys on dating apps. So this idiot just making it even harder for the rest of us.

I imagine this guy is good looking (but shitty personality) right? He might think being an asshole to women turns them on. Well it doesn’t work that way when you haven’t even f*cking met them yet face to face. Unmatch him and block him.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Because terrible people can't easily get away with such poor behavior in public. Unfortunately there are terribly hateful and cruel people that exist.

Truthatanycost · Answer

'I looked at his photos and he looked very unhappy.' People try to make others feel... how they feel.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Don’t let it get to you. People are angry, bitter and nasty online and dating apps are some of the worst inventions on the internet.

Adronicus · Answer

Because they're cowards behind a screen. Insults have a purpose, to lower a woman's self esteem or nock a princess off her pedestal.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you care about others miserable existence dragging you down to their level? Block, report, move on. dont take these maggots seriously and Dont spend a second with those or their words.

Misery loves company. Are you going to be in one?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Just block him and move on. Sadly some people will troll, it's just a fact of the internet.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Mentally Ill probably. Unmatch report and better luck next time

Zolly99999 · Answer

He is insecure and unhappy with him self so he feels like a " tough guy" by insulting other people.. ignore him and move on.

Fuentes · Answer

When being on the internet and putting yourself out there you should just prepare for the insults and never take them personally.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

If he's insulting you... thinking that's going to work then he's got the game of a 3rd grader...

superdonkey · Answer

Because the Internet hasn't made so many experts and tough guys and tough girls behind keyboards

driven159 · Answer

Because they don't have the balls to say it in person internet makes cowards brave and immature

RuthlessAggression · Answer

Why does anyone insult anyone, ONLINE because it's called "being a wussy"

Thecubs22 · Answer

Two things. One they are probably idiots. Two they have nothing else better to do?

Jackson619 · Answer

What dating site ya people shouldn't do that it's wrong

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