Why is my best friend so flakey and insecure?

[Anonymous]

One of my best friends is really insecure she would criticize her own height, even though she's a perfect height for a girl and there's this guy she seems to really like but once he asks her out she just flakes out on him and I feel really bad for the dude. She also left me for a while (whilst still talking) for another group of friends and left me by myself for a while. I think it had something to do with the guy she likes to be honest as she has started to ignore him and act pretty cold to him. I've asked her whether if he was still bothering her but she didn't want to talk about it. It's kinda crazy because I know she likes him a lot but instead of literally saying yes to him she'd keep checking him out and starring at him awkwardly and then looking away. In my opinion her behaviour is self-destructive and immature. Why is she so flakey, immature and insecure? How do I help her?

[Whatever2929292]

Well insecure she needs help. But flakey maybe she is not that into you and should bring this up I am really sorry about that... Maybe she isn't worth being a friend. I know you care about her and want to help her.

She needs a mental health professional. I know you do care about her. Try and help her but if she won't take the help not much you can do

[Asker]

I've been friends with her for a long time. But I'm pretty sure it has something to do with the boy she likes.

[Whatever2929292]

Asker I am really sorry about that. It could have. Maybe you could ask her. But she really needs a mental health professional like a therapist.

I am so sorry about what you are going through and sorry I can't give you the best advice all the time. But I am willing to listen.

If you don't want to discuss things on this forum you can also send me a direct message as well even if I don't have all the answers you can at least vent a little in the comments or there.

I wish I could tell you more I am so sorry

[JakeS00]

If she's like this all the time I wouldn't keep being her friend. She may need to work more on herself in that department of insecurity too. A therapist can help her with stuff like that I assume.

[SeekingVirginWife]

Because she is not a virgin.

[Asker]

I'm sure she's a virgin haven't seen her talk to many guys.

[SeekingVirginWife]

If she was she would not be flakey.

[Asker]

Why do you think she would flake like this?

[SeekingVirginWife]

She retained semen of another man, making her as flakey as her sex partner.

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