Confused about my gender?

[Anonymous]

I've never been happy as a man, i know that.

For the past year now I've lived fully as a woman and have been much happier, BUT I don't want to get any surgeries. I don't really have a strong feeling about my body parts one way or the other.

Is this okay, or is it important part of being a woman that you want to have female body parts very badly so you'd even choose surgery for it? And if so, is it really important that I can't call myself a woman just for simplicity, but need to figure out a more specific label that exactly describes my own gender?

I don't want to do that. All the microlabels are confusing and hard to understand. I'd like to just keep living as a woman since that's definitely close, maybe just not 100% accurate. I don't care to be 100% accurate I just want a normal life where I'm not constantly uncomfortable in my own skin (metaphorically).

Is it okay to be confused about my exact gender and just choose the closest of the main 2 to make life easier?

[msmissydc]

I am not gonna give you tipps as I can't. I have no experience in any of this BUT knowing this site/app here, I would guide you to leave it with this sort of questions.
Please come back, or stay with other questions or help others. Specifically for this issue, Go for one of reddits lgbtq subreddits. As this site is specifically for men and women it attracts kinda weird people and the ammount of people that actually can help you, are rare. Maybe you get lucky and I dont want you to go, but keep that in mind please.

[msmissydc]

Is it okay to be confused about my exact gender and just choose the closest of the main 2 to make life easier?
About that part: Yes its ok, but again people with experience may help you better and these people are rare here.

[Asker]

I'm not on reddit but I will look into it, thank you for the advice!

[msmissydc]

R/lgbt r/asklgbt would probably be your go to subreddits. Maybe there are more.

[Anonymous]

WHY are you not comfortable with being a man? Is it the clothes or what? I don’t understand. Like what is different now that you’ve ”lived fully as a woman” for a year (how do you even ”live fully as a woman”) compared to when you I guess lived as a man? Is it that you like womens clothes and makeup or what? You can wear that and still be a man, wearing it doesn’t mean you’re a woman. You just like calling yourself a woman? Like I don’t understand how you can get to the point that you feel confused about your gender. What’s the confusing part?

[Asker]

I do dress more feminine now, but I've never dressed very masculine. I know I can dress and wear makeup and cut my hair however I want and that doesn't make me a man or a woman. By "living fully as a woman" I just mean I've been living socially that way i guess. Came out to my friends and family and they refer to/treat me like a woman, my husband calls me his wife and our kid calls me mom. Just everyday differences like that. I see myself as a woman, and I'm much more comfortable when people I'm close to do too because that feels like they actually know me and not just someone I'm pretending to be. I just don't feel like my body parts need to change to match this. I guess that's why I'm confused. Other people I know in the same situation very much want their body to match how they feel, but I don't really care, and maybe that makes me less of a woman but I'm not sure if it really matters in the bigger picture.

[Berethor]

There is many transwomen who leave their penis intact, a fake vagina can't give birth.

[handsomelad70]

Try being a black man, though I thoroughly love being a handsome black cowboy

[Asker]

I'm glad you enjoy being a man, but I don't. I've already tried it.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

There's no right way to be trans. Some want the surgeries and some don't. In the end it's all about what you feel comfortable with. There are a lot of sub reddits you can go to on Reddit that will help you better than this site would. I can get some of the sub reddits names from my trans friends if you need them.

[Asker]

Thank you, I think I found a few I will try to join.

[Anonymous]

U are a biological male? Do u have sex with men?

[Asker]

What do you mean? That's not what I'm confused about.