How do I look postpartum?

[Anonymous]

I can’t stop being insecure and my mind is racing i really need help to understand actually how to feel good about myself…
I have bad skin, I have hip dips and saddle bags, stretch marks and love handles. I just can’t lose this weight. How do you not get discouraged and stay focused? I’m not allowed to go to the gym because my boyfriend but I. Can workout from home and it’s been discouraging by not having equipment or even a motivating partner. Do i have an ugly body.

No one actually takes unappealing pics like this so please be kind. It’s rare you see someone’s body from this angle..

[Graci_e]

You’re beautiful.

It’s completely normal to feel this way - every mum does. I have complete empathy for it and how hard it must be for your body to change so much.

But be proud. Your body just created life. Every stretch mark, every bit of loose skin is a reminder of that. It’s actually beautiful if you really think about it.

So cut yourself some slack. You just spent 9 months growing a baby and just gave birth to a beautiful little thing. Your body deserves time to rest and recover.

My mums a personal trainer and runs mums and bubs classes. It’s a safe return to exercise after pregnancy, baby comes along (they use them as weights, super cute) and all the mums connect and talk.

If you have a look online, I’m sure you could find similar run by a qualified person. They must have expertise in this certain area of prenatal exercise care.

A class like that could be super beneficial for getting back into exercise safely while connecting with mums just like you. You just went through a medical procedure, so like anything else, it’s important you come into exercise safely.

Your body will come back and you’ll learn to love yourself again. Get a qualified trainer to help you through it - they’re motivating and will help you lose weight in an effective way. There’s so many options - gym classes, personal training, outdoor boot camps, online programs, etc.

And at the end of it, if there’s things you’re not happy with, I see nothing wrong with a little plastic surgery/mummy makeover. You deserve it and I don’t think it’s something you should be ashamed of to want your old body back.

Like I said, you’re absolutely beautiful and you should be so proud of yourself and your little baby.

[England4eva]

You look like a normal woman who just had a baby. This is how 99% of new moms look. Don’t hate yourself, your body adapted, and it’s going to adapt again.

These things don’t happen over night. But I can guarantee that if you don’t stop hating yourself, you will find no motivation to eat healthy and do short work-outs.

You must love yourself before you can tackle anything. Start looking at yourself differently, and be grateful for what your amazing body achieved. It can do anything you want it too, but you have to have faith and a positive attitude before the next goal is tackled, or else you get nowhere.

Biggest thing is making sure you eat wholesome nutritious food, no fast food or microwave meals. If you have a juicer even better.

[Whatever2929292]

No you aren't ugly. I don't know why your boyfriend is being controlling (unless there is another reason I don't know about) but I think that maybe if your boyfriend is this controlling you should leave him.

If you are worried about your skin you can see a dermatologist and a fitness coach.

[Khronuskeeper]

I don't think you look ugly at all. Keep up the hard work. If you want to tone up, do it for yourself, you got this :)

[lofii]

What are you doing double checked up on a Friday afternoon with all that ass 💦💦

[Anonymous]

U pushed a whole small human. Dont be so hard on yourself, u will get to your previous size within months.
Do low intensity workouts with weights, eat clean, and get enough sleep

[JoyGirl]

Girl, pls.
You just had a baby.
Relax, and give yourself a break! 💜

[JoyGirl]

Also, who said you can’t go to the gym? Your boyfriend? 🤔

[Shamalien]

If you sprint till you’re dizzy and feel like puking 3 days a week your body will naturally adapt and shed the weight.

[Apple1996]

Horrible advice to give a new mom

[Shamalien]

@Apple1996 lol maybe not great for right after, but eventually, when she’s ready, this is how one surefire way to get fit

[Apple1996]

Still not healthy. Plus some women just hold on to weight after birth cause of breastfeeding so it will naturally come off after that

[Shamalien]

@Apple1996 It may not be healthy right after pregnancy, but in general, this is how you stay young. You have to push the body past it’s limits every once in a while. I’ve been avoiding it for a few years cause it’s gnarly, but the last few times I did this the results spoke for themselves. Maybe it’s not for everyone, but my dad still does this in his 60s and he’s the fittest, healthiest dude in his age range I’ve ever seen

[Shamalien]

@Apple1996 so long as you leave time for proper recovery it won’t hurt you

[Apple1996]

Mom's already push their bodies too much so still maybe for normal people but def not moms of babies/toddlers

[Ericblue35]

I like the parts that come to my hand, so it's good to have some fishy. you just need some time. i think your physique is amazing

[warren_zevon]

You look fine to me. I think you just need to work on embracing yourself more than anything.

[Apple1996]

You look good for just having baby

[Pterodon]

I’d love to make love to you

[Asker]

Lmao, but i don’t look like a boy

[Pterodon]

I don’t want you to look like a boy. I’m not a pedo or fag

[Asker]

I know I’m asking do I look like a boy because of my butt or anything?

[Pterodon]

No way

[vald9inches]

Sexy!! 🤤

[RuthlessAggression]

compared to?

[Anonymous]

try fasting