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• We met online 1 month ago and texted back and forth ever since pretty often, lately it was daily. Last 2 weeks we switched to calls and talked for HOURS;
• SOMETIMES, he took a few hours to respond to my texts, but he doesn't use his phone often, I also noticed his social media is very very DRY, I think he never even posted a story or any content on his socials whatsoever... so makes me think he doesn't use his phone much
• We know A LOT about each other, and have TONS of things in common, he told me personal things, and always told me he enjoyes our conversations, we both want a serious relationship, nothing casual.
• We met the other day for the very first time, had a whole day date in a city that we wanted to explore, we basically had breakfast, lunch and dinner
• We talked nonstop, at some point as we where walking through the town we started holding hands and got touchy more and more as the day went by
• I noticed that he never used his phone, just once to use google maps and another time to call his friend for an information.. that's it he never touched his phone (GREEN FLAG to me)
• By the end of our date, after we literally talked, teased each other, joked around for 10 freaking hours, we got on this public boat bus (or w. e. they are called) and it drove us around the lake and it got crowded, and we had no space in between us so we Kissed...(I had a heart attack I loved it so much)
• And yes, ever since that kiss we did kiss more often here and there until we said our goodbies an went home... lol
• The next day, he was a little distanced, but he is from time to time but I still OVERTHINK and immediately come to the conclusion that he does not like me, but then he always comes back and shows interest... he said he wants a second date shortly, he is also wanting to travel somewhere with me... but I did have to ask IF HE LIKES ME , (cause i'm a little weird and insecure at times) and he said VERY MUCH SO, but yet his answers where kind of dry in general...

A guy I work with that I have known for years and I have always had a playful relationship. We banter, joke and pick on each other during breaks. He and I started a casual fling with the understanding it wouldn't be a serious thing and that it had to end if feelings were attached. So, we go on this way for months, never hanging out outside of work except for hook ups. Feelings grow. He acts jealous when I talk to other guys, he goes out of his way to make me jealous. He lights up when I walk into a room, this warm, glowing smile on his face. He goes out of his way to look out for me, and a couple of times he says love you to me as we get off the phone, quietly like he wants to make sure I cannot hear. He goes through days where he burns super hot and cold, nervous and jittery around me. When I first say it back finally, he seems happy or giddy about it. I say it a few times, only as we get off the phone. The last time, he seems nervous, and does something to intentionally make me jealous afterwards. I get up the courage to ask him if it bothers him that I told him I love him. He asks me why, and when I won't tell him right away he says I shouldn't and flips it on me, saying what we have was supposed to be casual and why did I allow myself to catch feelings? He keeps asking why I love him but then apologizes and says I don't owe him an explanation. I finally ask him if he feels the same and he says no, that he's sorry he led me to believe he did.