Friends with benefits said he loved me, what does this mean?

[lexie9898]

I've been sleeping with the same guy for about 8 months now. It wasn't consistent but us texting/snapping was pretty consistent. We always said it was just sex and that it was nothing more and he and I were okay with that. In September he up and ghosted me for a month. Removed me from snap chat and stopped texting me. Then at the beginning of October he texted me and we started talking again. Never apologized or anything. I was fine because we were just having sex. Most recently he's been saying things like "my dog needs a mom" or will snap me a picture of him and his dog cuddling and will say "this could be you cuddling with us", He then sent another snap saying i do need to take you out to dinner sometime soon. On Tuesday night we were snapchatting normally and out of nowhere he sends a snap that just says " I love you" . No context or anything. I sent back a snap saying excuse me? and he sent one back saying "Shhhhh". What does that even mean? the whole night I said no you don't and he kept saying "yes I do". Towards the end of the night I straight up asked him what he meant and why? like as a friend? and he goes "yes as a friend, I'm so sorry". First off, I didn't even feel like we were friends. we were just fucking, we never hung out as friends, we would have sex and then I would just leave. half of our conversations are about sex. We haven't talked since this happened and its been 2 days. what should I do and what does this mean?

[JPresidente]

This always happens with friends with benefits. There should be a caution sign that appears before every couple that does this. "Warning, one or both of you will experience feelings for the other after you have sex". He is sending signals in every way possible but saying the words himself. He has feelings for you, he loves you. The only reason he does not come out and say it in the fashion you would like is that he still has some pride left and does not want his heart broken. You mentioned below that you have some feelings for him as well. Take the bull by the horns, tell him how you feel and I can guarantee you he will do the same. If you act standoffish, he's going to retreat and ghost you and assume you don't feel the same.

[__MisterGoneShiner__]

Leave and go hug and kiss him/her, say that you love her/him back and ask out.

[Nomina]

Oh my goodness. What else do you need? Why not just talk to him about it and figure it out then. Whatever it is you're asking here, tell him.

[lexie9898]

I did, he won't give me a straight response. I just wanted others take on this and what their interpretation of it.

[Nomina]

What is a straight response to you?

[lexie9898]

to explain why he feels that way and to elaborate on it

[Nomina]

I have two questions that may help you figure it out for yourself?
1. What do you want with him?
2. Do you like/appreciate this behavior of his?

[lexie9898]

I do have feelings for him. I would like it if he if he was straight forward instead of beating around the bush

[Nomina]

Did you tell him you had feelings for him?

[lexie9898]

no, he's moving in 4 months and i dont think it will do any good.

[Nomina]

Then why need him to elaborate on something you think can't go anywhere? Wouldn't it be better to dial back on the kind of thing he says and set things straight again?

[lexie9898]

Thats what i said, so why tell me? i just want to know if it feels genuine to other people.

[Nomina]

You have your reasons for not saying anything, and he has his. But it shouldn't matter if you know it's not going anywhere. Thinking about it or wondering just sounds like a headache you're bringing on yourself.

[Guy13]

Sounds like fun and games. You two need to communicate

[Avicenna]

It means he's really enjoying the sex

[In_Trance]

It means nothing if you leave it at this point

[Anonymous]

He is a simp