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So to begin with I felt kinda sorry for him because he was in a car accident, ended up partially paralysed and his wife left him.

However, he later told me he’d had at least two other accidents where he’d been driving about 100mph. The 3rd one happened because he hit a tree driving at 120mph, which caused him to be wheelchair bound. This was just after the birth of his 4th child about 4 years ago. So immediately I just think it’s selfish that you’d risk your life like that knowing you have a wife and 4 children that you could potentially leave behind.

Now he’s in the process of divorce, he’s told me all about how she’s been toxic and deliberately damaged his car a few times. He also told me she’d said she wishes he’d died in the accident one of the times they were arguing. And she also voiced she wished she could sleep with a celebrity. She also told him that one of their kids wasn’t his.

For me, all of that immediately then put me off because it sounds like there’s been toxicity in that relationship, but I wonder if he put so much pressure on her that she snapped. I’ve tried to suggest that he should work things out with her as they were together 17 years and I think she maybe had attempted to fix things at one point, but he was too stubborn. He’s now adamant he’s ‘moved on’ and is wanting to date me, I’m beginning to wonder if it’s a ploy to rub things in her face and get back at her.

thoughts?

For context, this man was married to his wife for like a good 12 years. A few years back he was in a car accident due to reckless driving that has ended up in almost complete paralysis of his legs. Last year she eventually left him, and they share four kids under the age of 9.

He said things were rocky prior to the breakup with her saying some particularly nasty things and blaming him for his accident etc. They started to argue a lot and the relationship collapsed. She’s now very bitter toward him, however, I think she’s been hoping to get back together and fix things with him, but he is refusing her advances and saying he’s moved on.

He’s keen to meet up with me. However, I know exactly how his ex feels in her position. I know exactly how it feels for the person you love to move on with someone new when all you want to do is fight for your relationship. I understand she may have left the relationship, but they share 4 kids together. And maybe she is having some regrets. I don’t want to be that woman that swoops in and gets in the middle of that sort of thing, especially where young children are involved. What are your thoughts?