Is this guy just selfish?

[Pink934]

So to begin with I felt kinda sorry for him because he was in a car accident, ended up partially paralysed and his wife left him.

However, he later told me he’d had at least two other accidents where he’d been driving about 100mph. The 3rd one happened because he hit a tree driving at 120mph, which caused him to be wheelchair bound. This was just after the birth of his 4th child about 4 years ago. So immediately I just think it’s selfish that you’d risk your life like that knowing you have a wife and 4 children that you could potentially leave behind.

Now he’s in the process of divorce, he’s told me all about how she’s been toxic and deliberately damaged his car a few times. He also told me she’d said she wishes he’d died in the accident one of the times they were arguing. And she also voiced she wished she could sleep with a celebrity. She also told him that one of their kids wasn’t his.

For me, all of that immediately then put me off because it sounds like there’s been toxicity in that relationship, but I wonder if he put so much pressure on her that she snapped. I’ve tried to suggest that he should work things out with her as they were together 17 years and I think she maybe had attempted to fix things at one point, but he was too stubborn. He’s now adamant he’s ‘moved on’ and is wanting to date me, I’m beginning to wonder if it’s a ploy to rub things in her face and get back at her.

thoughts?

It’s a complex situation.

This guy seems selfish.

This guy doesn’t seem selfish.

[Finchie40]

It sounds like they were both toxic and that’s probably why they ended up together on the first place , So whatever he is saying about his wife , there is more than likely a whole other story that he isn’t telling you. Overall he is stupid for not learning his lesson the first time he got into an accident from speeding , not only is he jeopardizing his life , he is jeopardizing others’ as well by driving like a fucking asshole. I can’t tell you what to do , but my advice is to not date this guy whatsoever because he is a moron. I would put him in the same category as drunk drivers’ that received a DUI that didn’t learn their lesson the first time around , and did it again and again , I'm sorry those people need to be institutionalized for being morons and fucked in the head . I knew a guy that has 5 DUI’s , even though he is a nice person to me , I still consider him a fucking moron , and I tell him all the time , I hope you finally learned your lesson. So I don’t blame the wife for divorcing his ass because he clearly didn’t learn his lesson , he’s lucky she stayed with him for as long as she did in my opinion. I know nobody is perfect , but you have to draw a line somewhere, or you are going to be considered a moron as well for staying in a relationship with someone like that , that doesn’t have any common sense whatsoever. I use to date a girl that had a compulsive gambling addiction that pissed away all of our money. The first time she lost a lot of money , I let it slide, even though I was shaking my head , but I thought she would learn her lesson , but unfortunately she didn’t , and pissed away her money and my money without my consent. I immediately kicked kicked her out of my house for being so stupid and told her
To go get serious help. I needed up running into her a few years later and she didn’t learn her lesson , she was still gambling and she looked like a homeless person. I thought to myself , Thank God I left her when I did.

[Lynx122]

They both seem like a mess but yes he is selfish he keeps speeding no matter the consequences. He chose a reckless lifestyle over his future. But the wife doesn't sound very innocent either lol. She chose him either despite or because of his irresponsible behavior and now they're in this mess. It is true that in life some people think too much and don't go with the flow enough, but there's also people who would benefit from some thinking.

[Pink934]

I agree. I just don’t think I should start dating considering

[AI Opinion]

Oh la la, seems like you've got yourself a tangled web of drama, huh? 🎭 My mission here is to help make sense of these messy love lives. 🚥 First up, driving at 120mph when you've got kiddos waiting is definitely giving off all kinds of red flags. 🚩 And if he's telling tales about a toxic ex, it could be a classic "blame-the-ex" scenario. You might be dealing with someone who hasn't fully processed their past and could be using you as a rebound or a distraction. Given the history between him and his ex, this situation might not be just one person's fault. Keep your beautiful heart safe and make sure you're stepping into any new relationship with clarity and eyes wide open. 🌟

[Twalli]

Tbh, most people wish they could sleep with a celebrity. That's what a celebrity crush is. Just like my cousin knows Channing Tatum will never sleep with her, and my sister knows Tom Felton will never sleep with her, they still have crushes on them. The difference is that most of us don't really ever entertain that as a realistic possibility. If his wife does, that's weird.

[Pink934]

Meh, I’d be happy just with my partner to be honest

[Twalli]

I'm happy with just her, but if my celebrity crush was actually legitimately interested, I would be tempted. Again, most people know it won't actually happen.

[eagle1951]

WOW!

[Pink934]

What?