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My fiancé and I have a large age gap (I am 28 and he is 50) and other differences but we have a strong emotional connection that holds us together. I don’t know why but even though he says he wants to be with me, he isn’t very expressive or affectionate. He doesn’t compliment me ever. I may tell him things I like about him but he is never able to answer when I ask the same in return. Or I will compliment him on his physical attributes but he will say things like your lips are fine or this is average. You could do better if you put work in. Etc. I don’t really get it because he is pretty average looking and not my normal type but I really love him and have gone out of my way to prove it. I can’t tell if he really doesn’t like me but still wants to get married for convenience or if he is just bad at expressing but every time I try communicating this, he ignores me or diverts. Even though he is close to 50, makes less than me and has been divorced 3 times he tells me he is a catch but never makes me feel like he is lucky to have me. I don’t feel loved or understood by him and it hurts a lot. I don’t understand why he acts so indifferent. The only times I’ve seen him not like that is when other men give me attention and then he gets really nasty and jealous. He has called me a slut, whore, etc before out of that possessiveness. And when we sleep together, it is always passionate. But in the day to day, he acts very indifferent and I am trying to understand why. Any ideas or understanding? An outside perspective would be much welcome please. Thanks in advance ;-(

I’ve been with this guy for 7 years now on and off. We had just got back together and things were going fine. We are both senior execs in different companies so he knows I travel a lot for work. It was my birthday and I had to be in NY for a business gala thing. A guy friend of mine who I’ve talked to once in the past but who I realized I wasn’t interested in messaged me happy birthday and wanted to hang out. I let my guy know everything and asked if he was comfortable with me meeting up with him and that it was fine either way. He said for me to do what I thought was best but then ignored me. I ended up meeting up for dinner with him but took a friend with me to buffer. I was dressed apropriately and didn’t flirt but he messaged the next day and wanted to come to my room etc but I said no. When my guy finally stopped ignoring me, we got back to normal and he said he’d just been busy and asked how it went. I told him what happened and suddenly it went 0-100. He said he knew I’d meet up with my friend and that I likely did something for him to proposition me. He said I kept wasting my time on people like that and called me a whore and lemon car.. he also said he figured that guy would slip something in my drink or that I’d eff my friend and he kind of hoped it happened so he could confirm I was defective. He laughed and said at least now he knew he would never marry me. He was incredibly cruel and said everything to try and hurt me. He has never called me a whore before but he has said slut once in the past when he got jealous. Is this justified? Did I do something that horrible? Is this normal? Sorry, just really upset and trying to make sense of it all.