I'm a traditional type guy. Even when I was a teenager I knew not to even date if I was too broke to pay my own way/bills. Period. My priorities in life were to have an income and build a career/business of some kind. I never wanted to be a burden on a woman. So the idea of using my girlfriend as a pawn shop never crossed my mind.
Yelling at you in public or in front of his ex are all red flags. You know what you get out of life? What you let others give you. You say you got over 'it' but what you did was you taught him that he can abuse you without consequences & that you're a doormat. There are people in this world who act like saints when dealing with someone who has boundaries but they're like the devil if you're a sucker/weak/soft/always forgiving everything. I'm not saying this is all your fault but it's like 50%. Best case you find a guy who has higher standards for HIS OWN BEHAVIOR before you take him seriously in any way. I call these traditional type guys. But regardless, good relationships don't just magically happen because you date somebody. They happen when there are boundaries set and both people agreed to them. Don't just let 'hope' and good wishes determine what happens. Again tho... if you pick the right guy you have way less to worry about.
If I'm you, I would have dumped him when he first suggested the pawn thing. That's crazy and tells me he's a user. It's not like you're married or even living together. It's not like he's proven his loyalty and that he's pushing hard to do what he should be doing for ages and just hit a little roadblock. This is before we even talk about him banging his ex behind your back. If a woman ever cheated on me she'd be dumped instantly. No matter how much I love her or how much I invested in the relationship. It doesn't matter. I might cut her some slack if she came to me and told me everything 1st without me having to find out & out her IF everything else was good and we had a long history. But I guess someone honest enough to do that is also honest enough not to be cheating in the 1st place.
I would give him his gun back, cut off all contact 100%. No touching. No kissing. No texting. No phone calls. Nothing. Move on. You can do better. But part of that is you need to be better. Check out my mytakes if you want some traditional view points.
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Honey it sounds to me like you two don’t have a future. It sounds like he has been cheating on you and manipulating you this whole time. And I would take your gun and get out of his none sense.
i would not allow that’s to bother me but I also wouldn’t allow any of that situation to happen. I wouldn’t do anything with my ex if I had a girlfriend and I would have shot the gun with my girlfriend when I bought it if I was so concerned about shooting t with her. I also wouldn’t have sold my gun to her to try to keep the lights on… I would have just asked for the money.
What a bitch he is. I don't give a damn. They didn't break it, so who seriously cares ?
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Whew. Not someone I would want to be either dating or related too. 🙀
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The deeper question is why are u still with him this situation is clearly toxic you guys are wasting eachothers time just end it and move on
Y’all should clarify and resolve your infidelity issues with eachother sound like that may be root of your stress
It is your gun till he gives you the money for it, sounds like he prefers her over you and is just using the gun as an excuse
You both are toxic. You should break up and work on yourselves before trying to get in a new relationship.
Sounds to me like you need to leave him
If pawned to you I shouldn't complain.
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