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Am I the only one who thinks this has a high chance of being a recipe for disaster waiting to happen? We can pretend to live in a fair fantasy world all we want, but the truth is that most male and female friendships aren't 100% platonic. Usually at least one of the two develops feelings or at least a crush for the other, and I'm sure that most of us have experienced this with the majority of our friendships of the opposite sex. For me, many (NOT all) of my male friends had liked me at some point for example and I even had to end some friendships because they wanted more than I could offer.

So this brings me back to my point, how fair or wise would it be to make new friends of the opposite sex once you're in a committed relationship? It's not even just about trust (even though I do believe in trust but not blind trust) but the fact that no relationship is perfect and during difficult relationship moments it could become easy for some think that the grass is greener on the other side and even if they don't act out on it, cheating isn't always sexual. Keeping friends you already knew is one thing, but making new ones seems kind of sus... I don't know 🤷‍♀️

But I'm open to different opinions, even if I don't share them. How do you see it?

If you're in a relationship or marriage, what would be worse to you:

- Finding out they never moved past the infatuation period. Therefore, no they don't love you, never did. It was just the highs, passion and them seeing you as perfect, loving an idealized version of you... a fantasy but not the real you with flaws.

- Finding out they never developed an infatuation period with you and instead jumped straight to loving your real you, your attributes, what you contribute overall, your similarities and they're always been faithful even with the initial highs and passion.