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This girl I been talking to for about 3 weeks. Some time she take long time to respond. Like past 10 hours+ mark. Someday she respond quickly sometime doesn’t. So couple days ago I ask her out on a date and she available the next after 5pm. So I was like okay I’m excited to see you. She arrive on time ( she live an hour away from me), on a dot! Dress nice and happy to see me. So we go get some boba tea. And we went on Long drive just to talk. She share her drink with me 5min after we got into the car. We both little shy at first but night went on we got comfortable and we both have really great time talking each other and enjoy each other company. Say we laugh like 90% of the time!. As I get comfortable I start asking if her hand is cold so I hold her hand, and she doesn’t seem to be bother, so we lock hand. After couple mins I let go cuz is getting sweat! And I did that couple of time and doesn’t seem to mind. Seem pretty happy and smiling about it. So I start moving in to her personal space and she didn’t care either. And she hold eye contact with me when I talk to her, and I’m the one who break the eye contact, look at her again and she still look at me. Her eyes is beautiful🔥. I did playful touch her lot but she doesn’t seem to mind. At the end of the date i playful said oh so we going to kiss? And she said with playful tone: I don’t have gum, now u make me overthink, and you got let it happen naturally u can just say it like that. So she hug me and kiss me on the cheek instead. And said I got wait for next time! And she said it again when we went for another hug. So next day I follow up with her. Say I enjoy our date and she enjoy it aswell! So I text her the only thing bother is no kiss, and she said don’t complain or you won’t get any. So I just laughs it off cuz is was funny. Next day she went back to long responding. What do you guys think is she actually into me or she just playing game or is she giving me hella test right now?

There have always been those kind of people out there. But hear about this more and more. It was done to me a few times. The worst case was after I dated a girl for 9 months and we got in a minor argument.

Unless someone physically abuses you, steals from you, lies about something very major, threatens harm/violence or cheats on you there really is no excuse for ghosting. However I’m seeing more and more girls (and some guys) saying it’s okay. No you are just a selfish coward if you ghost.

When I broke up with my last ex 2 years ago I gave her the respect of doing it face to face. I really didn’t want to see her or talk to her. She was very mentally unstable. But I knew the best way for her to heal was to hear the truth.

I endured 2 hours of her going absolutely ballistic. Screaming, crying, throwing things, threatening suicide (she didn’t do it). It absolutely sucked but she actually proved to me that I made the right decision. I also walked away knowing that she can look back on things and have a peace of mind that she got to speak her mind. That will help her heal and move on quicker.

Anyway I’m just seeing more and more people bitch out, cower and ghost. They don’t realize that can really screw people up and then those same people started acting shitty to others. The vicious cycle continues.