Girl's Behavior 
Guy's Behavior 
Flirting 
Dating 
Relationships 
Fashion & Beauty 
Health & Fitness 
Marriage & Weddings 
Shopping & Gifts 
Technology & Internet 
Break Up & Divorce 
Education & Career 
Entertainment & Arts 
Family & Friends 
Food & Beverage 
Hobbies & Leisure 
Other 
Religion & Spirituality 
Society & Politics 
Sports 
Travel 
Trending & News 
There is this guy that I really like, but he has a lot of strugles and things going on in his life. He flirts with a lot of different girls, but that's like his personality. I have been talking with him for 9 months and we have been very good friends since like 6-7 months. We got very close in the last couple of months and I thought things were going well. He was giving me a lot of mixed signs and since he doesn't communicate AT ALL, I thought that it was because all of this scares him. I mean he has told me that some stuff scare him so that was my conclusion. Everytime we get closer, he distances himself after. I can't figure out if it's manipulation, like giving me what I want and then holding back, when I walk away, he comes back again to keep me, or that the feelings get too overwhelming for him, so he pulls back. I do know he cares about me and our friendship. At some point I thought he romantically liked me back aswell. I do a lot of tarot readings and everything pointed at him. 3-4 weeks ago we went to a party together. I asked him to come with me, because he wanted to and I was too scared to go alone. He went with me and was so happy. He really opened up that night about some stuff at home. He made my me a drink and we played games with other people. It honestly was really fun. But I noticed that he kept talking to one girl. At 4am, he went home.
He wanted to sleep over, but when I told him the only place was with my in bed, he said that that shit scared him and he preffered to go home. I expected that already, knowing him. When he left, everyone at the party told me "I really do think he likes you back!" "He for sure is interested". The girl he talked to brought him home, she wanted to and apparently asked for his snap (He didn't give it i"m pretty sure). The next day I went home, my friend called me and this was the moment that my heart was kind of broken lmao. She said "Last night I heard him talk to that one girl saying 'Yeah I think she likes me, but I don't think I am interested' He sounded pretty serious." Fun fact: My tarot cards predicted that I would be heartbroken at the end of October (It was the 30th). So I wasn't too surprised, but it hurt me a lot. Especially because my tarot cards also predicted that in November, things would be made up between us. But this still hurt a lot. Like I didn't expect him to say that behind my back. I immediately confronted him and said "Do you think I like you?" He said "What makes you think that?" I told him what I had heard and he didn't reply anymore for the next 10 DAYS. He just ignored me like he always does when things get rough. Then he replied saying that he didn't know how to react *Because In my message I told him that it was true and I did like him, but since I heard that on the party, I knew he didn't like me back. So I told him that). He asked if we could go back to friends and he said that someone told him I liked him.
The only people I told, that I am not too close with anymore, is like my best friend that I started to get less close with this year. Reason why, I didn't trust her and had a bad gut feeling. I sent him back an entire paragraph confessing my feelings and saying that I didn't like it that he ignored me and stuff like that. I just wanted to make it clear one last time, because now I already got myself into this anyways. I asked him who told him that. He said two names. The names of the girls that I already had in mind. I felt upset and betrayed since I didn't expect them to tell him that. I asked both of them if it was true the same day, and they both denied. Weird thing: My friend kept saying a lot of manipulation sentences, but I really want to believe her. The vibe still was a bit off. Then I decided to ask the other friend, since he said 2 names. I was like "Hey can I ask you something?' ONE MINUTE after calling with the first friend. She replied back immediately with a paragraph of why she didn't say anything. I was like "Wow (..) already told you? We just hang up (They are best friends aswell)" and she was like yeah. Like is that not suspicious? Why would u tell her so quickly? Within a minute as if it was a rush because the first friend knew i was about to ask her that.
I told my best friend and mom, and they both said this "I don't believe them". I also see no reason why he would lie about this (them telling him my secret). Like if he made it up, he wouldn't say names of those who didn't do it when he knows i would ask them about it. That doesn't make any sense. He wouldn't lie about that. Or he would to start drama, but I don't think he would. He is an honest person most of the time so that would be weird tbh. I decided to let it go. I don't trust all 3 of them anymore and I just let go of this. Someone is lying to me and I'm not going to find it out anyways. I'm just not sharing secrets anymore lol. So a few days passed. We had a schooltrip I started talking to a friend of his in the schooltrip and he kept looking curious to know what we were talking about (We are in different classes but had the same bus lmao, lucky me trying to ignore him...) I found that weird. Then at the museum, we kept walking up to each other and everytime he quickly looked the other way or pretended to not see me, because he also found it awkward i think. He is very good at hiding emotions due to the struggles in his life, so I can't read him at all. On the way back, just when I thought he would ignore me forever, he looked back at me in the bus. When I looked at him, he quickly looked away. This happened like 5 times in 10 MINUTES?! Like bro, you say one thing then do the other. Stop trying to look at me in a sneaky way lmao. I see and feel everything and sometimes he underestimates that haha.
Then yesterday we had PE together. We went to a trampoline park with 2 classes (for 3 weeks total) And he obviously ignored me. He does trampoline as a sport so I did notice that when I looked his way, he started to do some tricks. Also when we got close and my friends started talking to him. He didn't really look at him, but started to teach one of my guy friends a trick. I noticed that he really tried not to look at me but sometimes he still did. Then I went to some kind of trampoline bin/container. Where you can fall in. My friend pushed me in and we had a lot of fun. Then he also came our way. I got pushed in again and someone else fell on top of me (like half) I turned around and it was him, smiling at me saying "hi". I got overwhelmed since it was out of nowhere, I mean he kind of ignored me for 2 weeks, come on.. So I didn't say anything back and tried to get away from him (it was hard lmao, those bins are so hard to get out of, so i kep falling back bruh). He noticed my behavior I think. Later I asked my friend about what really happened, did someone push him in? That's what I thought, but she told me that he jumped in by himself, 'pretending to got pushed in'. But he did it out of himself, why would he do that? To change the mood/vibe? Of our friendship? Or am I just someone that boosts his ego because he now knows I like him. But if I were just someone to boost his ego, making him want me to give him attention, then why would he kept looking at me in the bus in a sneaky way? If he just wanted my attention, he would just straight up stare at me, right?
[00:13]Then I found out, that he told 2 of my friends that he is going on a date with someone. A name I have never ever heard of. But he told my other friend that he already is dating this girl? WE ALL DONT KNOW HER?! And why would he tell my 2 best friends? I did a tarot reading and it basically said that he made this up and wants to see my reaction? But why would he do that? I know he is not ready for a serious relationship and I have never heard him talk about this girl. He also asked my friend some questions, it really looked like he was testing her to see what she knows and what she doesn't. I don't know I find it weird tbh. I don't know what to think anymore. His birthday is next week and I wanted to give him something... But I don't know anymore. I don't know where we stand or what we are. He made clear he wants to be just friends, but his actions sometimes are just so different. He also never confirmed all of this, so i never heard it come out of his mouth, ya know.
Well if ur still reading this, thanks for hearing me out. I'm sorry for the big messages lmao, I had to get it out. He has tried to make me jealous before so i wouldn't be surprised if he does that again right now. I don't know what to do, but we will see. Thanks for listening to me ig. Uh yea.. bye
Also I thought I was over him, but then when he gets near me, I just go crazy bruh. Like there literally is no reason to like him (except for all the private, fun moments we had together). I don't understand why I can't just get over him. At school today he was so pretty, OUT OF NOWHERE! I literally had to look the other way because i completely turned red. He is so different when we 2 are alone, I don't get it. He does care about our friendship for sure, but I really can't tell what he feels for me.
Most Helpful Opinions