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Men and women alike are frequently confused by eachothers signals for attraction. I have a friend who sees all the signals from a guy I'm pretty sure isn't into her, and is missing the one's from a guy who is into her. She really wants to be with the first guy. I see this all over the place. Isn't it pretty tragic?
What are these signals of attraction that I just don't seem to understand?

I believe that all humans can feel both masculinity and femininity. I also believe %100 of humans no matter the gender actually do experience these feelings and also we all know how it feels to be attracted to feminity and masculinity. isn't it reasonable to say that if you're a male when you feel attraction towards masculinity you're not being gay but you're just learning the emotional spectrum of feelings we are hardwired to feel naturally? Being able to understand and experience the human emotional spectrum just comes with the territory of being a human. So why can't males simply accept that they know what attractions towards another males feels like? When all males inevitably feel this attraction towards the same sex they commonly react towards the naturalness of this emotional learning and growth by telling themselves negative reactions and incredibly harmful thoughts such as feeling that they are not gay and they have to state this and then also dislike anyone who is gay. Can't they just accept that they know what it feels like because that's natural but they still have every bit of their free will and natural right to be able to choose what they prefer or what don't, whether they find one attractive or not? I just feel like I see them all the time reacting nagatively towards these feelings and it tells me that they've always done that since they first experienced attraction. This is what creates a self-perpetuating shame cycle. When they see an expression that reminds them of their natural humanity they direct their stored shame towards the innocent. Because when they are reminded of it they feel all the same shame that they themselves created upon first realization and denied to themselves. Blaming others instead. How do we stop this?

I've been on a lot of dates, but I've never been the one to ask a guy out. I'm more of a shy person so I've honestly never even tried and I'm terrified of it. I prefer the process of getting to know someone and becoming friends with a guy first.
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But I pushed myself and I've approached a few guys before to make conversation and some of them got the idea that I liked them but their attraction would wear off because they didn't ask me out. I felt that maybe it was because they generally weren't interested or just sensed that I wasn't really being myself and wasn't putting myself in a position to be pursued. Sometimes, guys digged that but then they only wanted sex from me, so then I reject them because friends with benefits is not my thing.

You know what I find odd? Men keep saying that they love the chase, yet sometimes they don't pursue and are expecting a woman to make the first move. I just think that's kind of cringe because I prefer to be the one who is pursued and 99% of the girls I know do too. I've noticed lots of guys might be enticed by this kind of girl at first, but then they move on to someone else who they want to pursue. *Basically they think the girl who approaches first just wants to suck their dick.* What's your opinion on the chase?