Guys, If a woman is sitting next to you and your arms, or legs, or shoulders are touching and you don’t move away?

[Anonymous]

I’ve read that this is a way to know if a man is definitely attracted to you. However I want to hear it from you guys, especially older guys, preferably 30 years or older. I was sitting next to my male colleague and he had no one else sitting on the other side of him. During this time, our legs touched at times, and our arms and shoulders. He did not move away so to not be touching. Is this an automatic sign of attraction? And what would you have thought if you were in this situation with a female co-worker?

[MannMitAntworten]

Actually this can cut both ways. What ai mean is, I was sat next to a woman I liked yet kept us from touching... however, if she made a point to touch I did not pull away. What I mean is, I gave her space. Equally, then there was a women I liked who when sat next to me I did not move away when touched. I played oblivious in both examples. Interestingly in both examples I ended up dating both. One became a brief girlfriend. So point is, it could mean something or it can mean nothing. Because equally, I behaved essentially the same toward someone I was i difference towards. At least as far as where touch was concerned. Where I did behave the same towards each is in my engaging in conversation with both where I did not or was very abrupt with those other women.

[spartan55]

There are very few if any "automatic sign of attraction". You girls always seem to be looking for one action, or comment and YEP he is attracted to me. This is rarely the case, especially when dealing with body language and attaching secondary meaning to everything a guy does. The aforementioned are typically weak indicators of attraction (or at least up for plenty of interpretation).
To assess attraction look for CLUSTERS of behavior from a guy that indicates he is attracted. Not one fluke action.

[Asker]

Yes, I know that’s very true. Honestly his behavior is all over the place, I have clusters that say, yes he’s interested and clusters that so no. So of course I know no one can definitively say yes or no based on this one thing. That’s why I’m just asking for your best approximation. Because other than just asking him out right, which I’m not ready to do, what else can I do. Such is life, such is human nature. And yeah it’s stupid and it’s sucks.

[spartan55]

I wouldn't waste time trying to figure that out. Use your time around him to get to know him better. That's, of course, the fastest way.

[savagelyfe0612]

This^^. All this time pondering and trying to read signs could be time spent getting to know one another if you simply ask if he’s attracted or interested. It’s not the “socially norm” way of doing it, but shit gotta risk it for the biscuit.

[nunyabiznes]

Yes he’s attracted to you. However that does not mean he wants to pursue anything more with you. I’m attracted to my gf’s 😉. I’m fairly certain she’s attracted to me too. I would NEVER do anything without my gf’s, “okay,” which I doubt she would ever give. So, while there’s attraction, that doesn’t mean much.

What would I think about a coworker situation like this? Presently I would think, “if I were single...”
Back in my single days? I’d see how far I could take the attraction.

[Asker]

Thank you, that was really helpful 😊

[Asker]

What would your girlfriend need to do to give you her “okay”? I’m curious 🙂

[Kreneman]

I love and respect women, for me, if a woman sits next to me especially if I find her very attractive or she is hot and we are physically touching (Arms, legs, Shoulders, or hands), I am very comfortable with that because it can lead to attractiveness or just enjoying the company at that moment.

[Adam1978]

No it's not its a sign that you don't repulse him. Not a sign of attraction, He needs to be the one moving closer on purpose for that.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing, this was helpful. 🙌🏻

[Anonymous]

We’re you guys reading?
i can see not moving then.

[Asker]

No, it was a very boring awards ceremony.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok, he might like you then 😊
ESP if there wasn’t someone on the other side.

[Pighttussy]

Maybe he thought it was normal.

[Smirnoff23]

Maybe he needed a shoulder to fall asleep on

[djeddiemmixinglive]

I would know there reciprocate attraction

[Anonymous]

That can be short sexual attraction.