Search Results: what goes around comes around

Not all women of course but here's the question. And don't think of it as a complaint.

If the man is "supposed" to do everything in the relationship and even before that:

• Approach the woman (woman number 467)
• Think of a reason to talk to the woman (among what subjects she won't find boring)
• Communicate with her (unless she ignores you or she doesn't reply, doesn't even say hi or contacts you herself)
• Ask her out
• Entertain her somehow (and don't make a fool of yourself)
• Possibly also pay for everything if she's broke, a cheapskate (or gold digger)

That means the guy does literally all the work in the relationship. And the woman does what exactly? Wait and sit around for something to happen? The point is if women really want a nice boyfriend, then how about they be more proactive themselves and not wait for miracles to happen? They can make things happen. It seems women by themselves literally go nowhere or do nothing at all (other than sitting at home on instagram) by themselves until someone (typically men) invites them.
Are y'all lazy, ashamed, shy, weak, helpless or what are you women waiting for? I mean you can be strong enough to get a degree and find a job and finance your living, yet when it comes to love y'all be like absolutely helpless and powerless.

On the Myers–Briggs test, I usually score around the intj & infp region. That makes sense, so nothing was too surprising on that. But on the big 5 test, I've taken it multiple times, and every single time, I scored high in conscientiousness. Which was very surprising to hear for the first time. 🤔 Because hearing about the habits of people high in conscientiousness is what made me think that I was low in it.

But I'm an odd one when it comes to this & I think I know why. Two things stand out to me the most. It's my high percentage of negative emotion (specifically anxiety) and my high percentage of introversion. If I wasn't high in neuroticism and so low in extraversion, I'd likely be more confident in my abilities and I'd likely have a more go-getter/productivity-driven aim towards the world. But since I don't, it affects my motivations & willpower.

So, in other words, I'm the civilized, competitive, & somewhat creative yet practical shy guy that isn't very people-oriented. I mainly prefer to be alone which limits my options. And my house is always organized even when I'm depressed (can't say the same for my room/office). 😂 I'll probably even have a workout schedule going or be intensely working on some creative endeavor. And even though I don't willingly ask for change, I'm moderately open to new experiences, so it's easier for me to cope with the changes if need be.

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