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I recently met a man on a dating app, and things were going great with him initially. Within the last week, he went utterly radio silent in communicating with me (even through text). I confronted him about it a couple of days before our 3rd date, and he disclosed how he had a situation with someone else he was seeing (we weren't exclusive) where it affected him so severely that he didn't have it in him to talk to anyone for that long. I thought that was weird since, on the 2nd date, he disclosed that he liked me and only needed a few more dates before asking me to be his official girlfriend. I didn't see a point in him speaking to other women either since our goal of dating is marriage, and we have similar goals.

I met with him today for our 3rd date, and the date was okay. We weren't as expressive as we were during our 2nd date, but we had good conversations. I asked him about his intentions with me since I was confused about the other situation, and he told me that we were on dates and would see if he wanted me to be his girlfriend. He asked if I told my family about him, which I said not really since he and I aren't in a relationship. Then, he disclosed that he showed a picture of me to his family and told them about me, and they said, "She's a pretty lady."

I don't know what this means at all. I don't know if that's a good sign that he likes me and will ask me to be his girlfriend soon or not. I know he has a good relationship with his family, so I think they might've asked if he found someone, and that's why he showed me, but I'm just assuming. We haven't had sex or even kissed throughout our dates, but that's boundaries we set up to ensure that we are genuinely compatible besides that aspect for now. What do you think?

Which matters more to you? The destination or the journey you take to get there.

This saying may mean different things to different people.

It can mean that stopping to smell the roses and and enjoy your way to your goals is important.

It can also mean that the little things you do on your journey add up to get you to your destination.

On the other hand, it can also mean that all of life is a journey that never ends. There's only the illusion of there being a destination to reach.

What does it mean to you, and how do you feel about this saying?

I'm inspired by the philosophical alternatives it inspires for different perspectives on what life really means, what we are all doing here, and how we go about it. When I first heard it, what I do in each moment became more important than rushing towards the next goal. No more missing out on all of the little things.

I packed the kids in my car and took a spontaneous trip to join a Rainbow Family Gathering and just breathe, live, relax, and enjoy the here and now.

I no longer had end goals for working out, just learning to enjoy the act of working out and viewing fitness as a side effect of that rather than a goal. Fitness suddenly became a fun habit rather than a chore.

I focused on just enjoying the simplest natural foods rather than dieting. Having a massive bowl of fresh fruits and veggies for breakfast and lunch without any obsession. Just enjoying the taste and look of something healthy for me. Again, my health and fitness became side effects rather than stress ridden goals.

On road trips it became much more common to pause many times along the way. On vacations, winging it on a daily basis became normal.

Big career goals and pushing to work harder and harder became things that either happen or don't based on our own personal enjoyment with our work.