I recently met a man on a dating app, and things were going great with him initially. Within the last week, he went utterly radio silent in communicating with me (even through text). I confronted him about it a couple of days before our 3rd date, and he disclosed how he had a situation with someone else he was seeing (we weren't exclusive) where it affected him so severely that he didn't have it in him to talk to anyone for that long. I thought that was weird since, on the 2nd date, he disclosed that he liked me and only needed a few more dates before asking me to be his official girlfriend. I didn't see a point in him speaking to other women either since our goal of dating is marriage, and we have similar goals.
I met with him today for our 3rd date, and the date was okay. We weren't as expressive as we were during our 2nd date, but we had good conversations. I asked him about his intentions with me since I was confused about the other situation, and he told me that we were on dates and would see if he wanted me to be his girlfriend. He asked if I told my family about him, which I said not really since he and I aren't in a relationship. Then, he disclosed that he showed a picture of me to his family and told them about me, and they said, "She's a pretty lady."
I don't know what this means at all. I don't know if that's a good sign that he likes me and will ask me to be his girlfriend soon or not. I know he has a good relationship with his family, so I think they might've asked if he found someone, and that's why he showed me, but I'm just assuming. We haven't had sex or even kissed throughout our dates, but that's boundaries we set up to ensure that we are genuinely compatible besides that aspect for now. What do you think?
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Hmm that is a bit confusing and strange situation this guy has put you in. A few thoughts on what him showing your pic to his family could mean:
- On the positive side, he may genuinely like you and be interested in pursuing something serious if he's already introducing you to his family after just 2 dates. That's pretty soon.
- However, it's also odd that he was still actively talking to other women when he showed your pic. And then went radio silent on you without explanation. That's disrespectful and not a good sign.
- His behavior seems inconsistent - touting serious intentions but then falling off contacting you. And the situation with the other woman affecting him so much is strange too.
- I'd be wary of getting more invested until he shows you more consistent, clear communication and focus on just you without distractions from others he's dating.
- For now see how the next few dates go. Pay attention to whether his words and actions align or stay unpredictable. Don't rush into anything official yet with this guy based on his shaky behavior so far.
Tread lightly and protect your feelings. His family move could be a good thing, but don't read too much into signs yet. See if he steps up his game and earns your trust over time. Proceed carefully here.
Who knows, it could mean something or it could mean nothing. It sounds like you barely know the guy. Maybe you should get to know him better before you decide to make him your boyfriend. Have you even spent a whole day together yet?
We haven't spent the entire 24-hour day together because we have other things to do. Our 2nd date was the longest, and we spent about 5-6 hours without the presence of our phones. That date was when we got closer and disclosed that we liked each other. I know I need to learn more about him, nor am I trying to rush this process. I don't understand why he showed my picture to his family when he's actively was trying to pursue another woman and didn't talk with me for a week prior.
Maybe Too, He Respects Their Opinion Before Bringing Home anyone To Sunday Dinner. Go Slow with This One, hun. xxoo