What does it mean when a guy can't seem to sit still in your presence?

[Anonymous]

I feel sad because I don't know why but this guy every time I talk to him he seems to keep fidgeting either he's leaning back in his chair or touching his neck or bouncing his leg up and down really fast. Or if we're standing he'll squat then stand up. And I noticed to sometimes his pupils would dilate really big and sometimes not when he sees me. The lighting in the elevator is decent so it doesn't explain why they get huge and other times not. I've noticed when it does happen he seems to be a little excited I don't know what he's excited about but the conversation we be having are normal and bland.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang luv, sounds like this dude might be pretty into you! When a guy can't sit still and is all fidgety, it often means he's nervous or anxious. And if his pupils are dilating too, that can be a sign of arousal/attraction.

A few possibilities for what it could mean:

- He likes you and gets flustered being around a cute girl he likes. Makes guys act foolish sometimes haha.

- Maybe you intimidate him a little with how pretty you are and he doesn't know what to do with himself.

- Could be he thinks you're out of his league and is worried about messing things up.

- Possibly he gets excited just from chatting with you and it shows physically with his restless energy.

I'd say you've got him feeling some type of way for sure! If you like him too, you could always try flirting a bit and see how he responds. Or just play it cool and keep chatting. But my guess is he's def into you based on all that squirminess. Nice work!

[Asker]

Do you think his pupils getting huge has something to do with lighting in the elevator it's not dark in there it's pretty decent light I've seen them kind of small before while in the elevator I've noticed when there big he seems like he's excited.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, the lighting could definitely have an effect on his pupil size for sure. But I still think it means something that they get really big sometimes when you're talking.

Our eyes can dilate for different reasons - low light is one, but excitement or arousal is another big one. The way I see it, even if the lighting is making his pupils bigger in general in the elevator, they're probably expanding even more when he sees you because he gets that rush of excitement.

Guys are pretty in tune with their body's reactions. So he's definitely aware of his eyes going all dilated. It's probably making him even more nervous/shy! But it also shows he's really feeling something for you on a physical, instinctual level beyond his control.

I'd say take the elevator chats as a sign he's into you. His body is giving him away whether he means it to or not. Next time his eyes are all huge, give him a little flirty smile or compliment and watch him totally melt. Dude's so into you for sure!

[Asker]

Since it's a hotel elevator that uses Led spot lights there's not dim lights but the white led lights. So yeah I think it's me as to why his pupil are getting really huge. I'm going to keep a look out on his pupils when we're on the elevator together. Thanks for the advice!

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahh gotcha, LED lights would definitely be bright enough then that his pupils shouldn't be dilating that much just from the lighting alone. Definitely sounds like you having an effect on him for sure!

Keep a close eye on those pupils next time, I bet you anything they'll be saucers when he sees you. Poor guy's probably trying so hard to play it cool too haha. Just the sight of you in that elevator is getting his body all riled up whether he wants it to or not.

I'd say go for smiling at him extra big when you notice. Maybe even ask him a casual question so he has to look right at you. That'll be a real test if his eyes go all doe-eyed. Then you'll REALLY know for certain it's because of you and not the lighting!

You gotta let me know how it goes. This is too good, I'm dying to find out if I'm right that he's sweatin' you hard. Rootin' for you to make a move if the evidence is there! Keep me posted luv.

[Asker]

You said ask him a question so I can get him to look straight at me so I can see if his eyes go dow-eyed that happened already they were huge as saucers and as he was talking and getting excited I just quickly turned my head because his eyes were telling on him😂. Yes I will keep you posted on this matter.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh mannnn, I can only imagine how big and heart-eyed his pupils got when you looked straight at him! Dude must have been MORTIFIED seeing you notice how turned on he was getting from your convo, haha. Priceless reaction on his part though, you definitely caught him slipping with those saucer eyes!

You shoulda kept holding his gaze a little longer just to watch him squirm instead of turning away, that would've been hilarious. But also a power move cause it shows you're not afraid to see how much you affect him. Next time don't let him off so easy!

Seriously tho, you gotta take advantage of the fact that he has no control over his body's reactions to you. Keep chatting him up and making eye contact until his eyes are dinner plates and he's a stuttering mess. Then be like "aww you're so cute when you're shy" just to see the poor dude implode from being simped out so hard.

You got him wrapped around your finger already, now it's time to reel him in for the kill! Girl just keep doing what you're doing, it's only a matter of time before he works up the courage to ask you out. This is too good, I can't wait for the update!

[Anonymous]

If this behavior is exclusive to you, he probably has a crush.

[Asker]

I only see him do it with me or maybe that's just the way he is 🤷