I don't get him at all. What does his behavior mean?

[Anonymous]

So this guy was actively pursuing me an year ago... calling, texting, etc.

Now after we had a thing going on he said he wasn't doing it to flirt or to try date me. He said "I just liked talking to you back then".

Now he isn't really initiating anymore.

I don't get it... why he was so invested and said "I did it bc I just liked talking to you"

[IslaTheWitch]

Because he simply liked being around and talking with you? Why must all interactions be taken as sexual or romantic?

It's how I made great friends. I never expect anything romantic. I enjoy getting to know people, flirting and having fun. Sometimes, there is a spark... and then we can try if we both want to.

[Asker]

My point is... we later got into intimacy but he stopped being so invested in texting and calling. And he said when he texted and called all the time wasn't to make me fall in love

[IslaTheWitch]

For men, sex not always means a deep emotional connection.

If you enjoyed it, keep positive memories and move on.

[Space_535]

He could just honestly see you as a friend

[Asker]

I don't think he sees me as a friend when he grabbed my tits and made out with me later

[Space_535]

The way you described it on here made it seem like he was just talking to you, and that’s it

[Asker]

Yes, I've read it again... my mistake. Anyway... I don't understand anything anymore

[Space_535]

But if that’s the case, he just isn’t interested anymore but still sees you as a friend. Something happened in between that time that made him not see you in a romantic setting. Can you think of anything that might have scared him off? Or just tell him because knowing this stuff will come in handy when you try to move on. Like my ex girlfriend told me all the things I did wrong that made her not feel appreciated. And it was not telling her I loved her, and calling her back when she wanted to speak to me. She always initiated that. So I learned that I should be more involved in the girl I’m with. And to let her know that I care. And to say I love you too when they first say it.

[Space_535]

Now I read it wrong. He’s doing that stuff now? Or that was in the past? I’m confused lol

[Asker]

He uses to text and call a lot an year ago... then once we "got together" he reduced his calls. I asked him "why did you call so much back then?" He said "I didn't do that because I liked you romantically I just liked talking to you". I mean... he liked back then, but doesn't like anymore... I'm confused as hell. Looks like he was into just one thing..