What's something that most people regard as a red flag in a relationship, that you think is no big deal?

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

[Anonymous]

1. Women who claim to be strong, independent boss bitches

2. Crazy colorful hair like the blues, greens, reds. Shaved heads on the side or back

3. Facial piercings like nose rings, bull rings, etc.

4. Wants a traditional man but is still out shaking her ass w her girls at clubs

5. A lot of financial debt.

6. Possibly a single mom

7. Multiple kids w multiple baby daddies

8. Spent time in prison

9. Tatted up

10. Princess mentality

11. Expects men to pay for everything. Most men will but coming in w that attitude definitely not

12. High body count

13. Friends of the opposite sex

14. Can’t cook.

15. Isn’t nice to people

16. Multiple past marriages

[Summerlazing]

Cheating on a previous partner.

I don’t think “once a cheater, always a cheater” is necessarily true. People make mistakes, they also learn from them and grow up.
I suspect most people have cheated at some point too!

I also know of several relationships that started with an affair and they’ve now been together for decades. But I do know for a fact they regret doing it the way they did,, but they were with the wrong person, met the love of their life and we’re too cowardly to just end their marriage.

I also want to point out I DON’T agree with people cheating AT ALL, but I get humans are complicated and it’s not always the red flag people make out. It all depends on the person.

[At3mis24]

Someone (a prick!) said to me in Youtube that my nickname is a red flag!! I blocked him immediately!

So blue color for hair is a red flag? And friends of the opposite sex too? I think they must mind their own business, picky men are the worst because they are unfair!

[snowboarder720]

Playing video games.
I honestly loved video games since I was 4 years old and it won’t ever change. It’s really the same as having any other hobby. I’m not really sure why people find it childish. Professional gamers make BIG money. Why can’t anyone practice? I’ve made friends online too. I’ve maintained friendships through playing video games because of distance living.


Honestly the only people who think video games are childish are baby boomers or someone who was treated badly from a video gamer.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Having friends of the opposite gender. (positive, as long as none of them are an ex)

Having no confidence. (neutral)

Keeping the hobbies, interests and stuff they had as a child while an adult and buying new things within those. (positive)

Nerdy hobbies and interests. (positive)

Having no sexual or relationship experience. (positive)

Being a shut in (neutral).

Not having social media (neutral).

Not using the internet. (neutral)

Being needy/clingy. (positive)

Not wanting kids (positive)

Being an atheist (positive)

Watching porn (positive)

Caring about looks (positive)

[bobalife]

What a fun question, flipping the script aye! Haha.

• high body counts
• some level of clingyness/neediness
• enjoys gaming
• Not having a good relationship with family/friends or no friends
• unemployment if they’re working on getting a new job
• justifiable debts such as school loans & working on paying it off
• specific zodiacs lmao
• single parents or stay at home husband/wife

[Chazmatazz269]

Sex on the first date. It seems most people think that if you want a “real” relationship, you can’t have sex on the first date. Or that having sex on the first date precludes the potential for a lasting relationship.
I don’t think either is true. I’m perfectly capable sharing of my personality and my flesh on the first date without ruining myself for my potential mate, or vice versa.
Last i checked, i wasn’t superhuman. So if i can do it, most anyone can!

[desidoll]

Long distance relationship. I have been told to forget about it and find someone closer but I followed my gut. Now I am happily married with a baby.

[HaveNoName]

The idea that in marriage, the wife's primary responsibility is to take care of the kids at home till they are independant 14-15 yr old kids, instead of leaving them to the day care to focus on career or income. Also, the idea of not having kids at all (in marriage) and rather have a career.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Watching anime, playing video games, having an obscure interest, etc. I swear to God, I hear women shouting from the heavens over how hot nerdy guys are, but as soon as they meet one, these traits are 'red flags' 😭

[_piotr]

That rules me out as I since I love anime, video games and have many obscure interests. Can you however explain to me why nerdy is considered bad by many people?

[wiltingrosepetal]

Women find 'nerdy' attractive, not nerds. Think of Andrew Garfield's Spiderman. He's tall dark and handsome, but there are glasses too. He's going for a slightly nerdy aesthetic which women are into because it implies introversion and emotional intelligence, while still looking buff.

But real nerds like the lads from Silicon Valley or The Big Bang Theory? They're considered awkward and ugly. I believe this stigma is to do with the interests nerds have (anime, chess, sci-fi, STEM, gaming, etc). These are incredibly male dominated fields known for treating women poorly. Either through terribly written waifus, demeaning the ladies in fandoms or the rampant sexism in COD lobbies. Additionally, when a culture is male dominated, it creates distance between the men who like it and women. Most women just don't get it, so they'll find it childish. It's the same reason why female dominated groups like Swifties or astrology fans are mocked by men. And yes, even seen as red flags.

In summary, people dislike what they don't understand 🤷‍♀️

[_piotr]

STEM? What technology and mathematics has to do with being childish? Rather opposite. I do not think that most children can deal with differential equations, calculus or optimalization problems. I would not associate professors from technical university with being childish. When I think of Einstein or NASA experts I rather have an awe for their knowledge and intelligence rather than see them as children... Women are strange...

[At3mis24]

I know some mind tricks to convince men that a woman playing games and watching animes is not a red flag! They will lose against me!

[snowboarder720]

Anyone who watches anime is automatically a friend of mine. I honestly get a relief when I meet someone and they tell me that they watch anime.

[snowboarder720]

I completely agree with the racist/sexist lobbies in COD though that isn’t what ALL GAMERS are about. There’s no reason why all gamers should be treated as sexists because you’ve heard them in gaming lobbies.

That’s painting the whole gaming community with a very broad paint brush.

[wiltingrosepetal]

@snowboarder720 You're talking to a GTA and Overwatch fan who's watched a long list of shonen/seinen anime (Death Note, AOT and Akira are my big three). I'm not describing how I feel about nerds, but how women in general seem to react to them. Unfortunately, people still think anime is for kids and still think gaming is sexist because of their narrow views of these subcultures. It's not me that's painting them with a broad brush, it's society as a whole

[snowboarder720]

Oh I see what you mean.
COD lobbies are notorious for that stuff. Definitely don’t say anything about the community as a whole. Unfortunately my father in law thinks I’m immature for watching the animated series of Batman…

Next time I see him I’ll be watching it in my Batman pjs because I give zero f*cks. 😆

[DrPepper12]

Doesn't belong to a gym. Some people are cardio freaks not strength.

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Not belonging to a gym is a red flag? Really? I mean, it's not ideal but is it really a deal-breaker for a lot of people?

I learn so much on GAG...

[OfMiceandMen]

That there's no sex within the first week or two of dating. I'd rather spend the time getting to know the person than jump in the sack with them.

[LaurenM1997]

People with disabilities come on people give us people a chance!

[snowboarder720]

This is an underrated opinion. I didn’t even think of this. 👏

[LaurenM1997]

@snowboarder720 people don’t ever think they just love to make fun of us people who have disabilities slag us off and make us feel like rubbish at times

[snowboarder720]

None of you deserve that.

[LaurenM1997]

@snowboarder720 I’m glad someone likes people with disabilities there’s not many who do sadly 😞💔

[snowboarder720]

It’s really unfortunate that way. I’d imagine that it takes a great deal of patience from you being around everyone like that.

[LaurenM1997]

@snowboarder720 yeah it sure does 😬

[Anonymous]

Everyone seems to spend all their time looking for "red flags" instead of trying to get to know people. No wonder they have so much trouble finding someone.

[AmyHew1tt]

Having friends of the opposite gender, and not having or being active on social media.

[Nikki1989]

When the partner has friends of the opposite gender. Total insecurity overload.

[Jamie05rhs]

Clinginess. I don't care if she's clingy. I think it's cute and really sweet! ☺️

[FuqUFggt]

The only red flag is if they are Liberal. Liberals are absolutely miserable and I have zero time for that

[ryancg]

I don't know all my friends tell me I've never seen a red flag I wouldn't go for.

[Anonymous]

Men occasionally going to the strip club w the bros.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Women having male friends, makes no difference to me. Some males get jealous over it.

[Extraterrestrial1999]

When the other person doesn't have friends

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

I can see that both ways- as a "red flag" or as a "who cares?"

[Upyours2024]

From what I've seen so far, I think @emyywolf can give you some advice on this.

[Simslover92]

Having a mental illness.

[snowboarder720]

Anyone who thinks having a mental illness is a red flag… is a red flag 😆

[Simslover92]

Very true.