What is the biggest red flag in a relationship?

[CopperSD]

What is your biggest red flag in a relationship

[14gurlz2gagonit]

In a relationship where the expectations and boundaries are already set and agreed upon. The one starts shitting on those agreements for whatever reasons they come up with... they're going to destroy the relationship. But that's more like a red giant dildo in the relationship covered in a venereal virus with dabs of chili powdered peanut butter all over it. Nobody wants to get fucked by that. But you're going to get fucked like that if you ignore the little red flags at the very start of the relationship.

Body count, promiscuity, history of dastardly deeds, clear patterns of behaviors that are just not conducive to a healthy relationship, unreal expectations, more concerned about bullshit than anything else, and you know all the other shit that we all know when we see it. When we see it we feel it, but if you choose to ignore them... That big red dildo is going to be there in your future.

[ArrowheadSW]

When in a bad mood, they purposely try to start arguments. Another thing is not allowing you to resolve conflict, and wanting to drag out the disagreement. Also, rudeness to people in public such as cashiers in stores or the wait staff in restaurants.

[DishLady]

I'm not necessarily great with the red flag thing. But when I see that someone's words and actions don't match up... or they get defensive about something like a simple act of compassion then I know something's not right and I start backing off.

[14gurlz2gagonit]

What you said really makes me think about my theory of why chicks ask the same questions multiple times in different ways. I sense they're trying to get me to change my answers and catch me making shit up. I always get a lot of praise "just being real from the start" which makes me think a lot of dudes actually just make up shit as they get asked those sorts of questions. Am I onto something that might be a logical theory or do you think I drink too many of these CBD drinks and Vodka while doing cocaine off the passed out hooker's tiddies on the hotel bed behind me?

[DishLady]

Yeah, it’s the same tactic that works for any sort of border control type agent. 😂

It’s not something we necessarily do purposely, but from a young age we’re told to be careful who we trust … stranger danger sort of thing … then hear nightmare stories about our older friends’ relationships … and by the time we’re dating there’s all this baggage floating around (and it’s not even OUR baggage) so bc we’re new at it we do the same thing a kid does… we ask all the WHERE HOW WHEN WHY questions as if we’re about to write your biography … and backtrack for details to double check.

HOWEVER some are more quiet and don’t engage that way. We wait and listen to what you say then watch what you do. For example, if you SAY you’re a guy who volunteers at soup kitchens blah blah but are nasty with the waiter at the coffee shop we’re sitting in… those two things don’t match up. Or you travel a lot but then never ever talk about it even when asked … something’s up. And so on. We look for patterns of consistency and reliability (esp if we’re the girlfriend/wifey sort).

(A gal who doesn’t do that isn’t seriously interested.)

[14gurlz2gagonit]

It makes sense. I sort of use my own method on chicks to see through their bullshit. #1 tactic is to get them talking and then listen. They usually tell on themselves. It does require incredible listening skills though.

Yeah, that cross questioning stuff is something I noticed from chicks all the way back in my High School dating days. The only difference with age that I notice is as a woman is older the questions sort of twist more into "What can you do for me" type questions instead of "Are you a good person that's being honest." But that could be the acceptance of lesser evils for a greater good.

[MemeSupreme]

they disregard YOU as a person

so your wants, needs, boundaries, and just don't listen

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the mysterious red flags of love! 🎏 One of the biggest red flags has got to be poor communication. If you're constantly playing detective to figure out feelings or intentions, 🚨 watch out! Communication is the foundation, my friend. Without it, the love house can crumble faster than a sandcastle at high tide! Falling for someone shouldn't mean diving into murky waters. Stay clear and communicative! 💬💕

[Finchie40]

Lying and dishonesty and selfish behavior

[glennos89]

Making your girl think you and her are going to do bdsm in the bedroom for the first time and after your girl is securely attached to bed. The final thing is making sure your woman gets blindfolded before leaving her strapped there in the bedroom while you make your way downstairs and start up your game console so that you can play all night long without a nagging wife bothering you constantly. 😂🤣

[Valdemort]

Tolerating (negative) behavior you wouldn't tolerate from others.

[NicholasRedone]

@Valdemort like if they're a push over or did you, could you elaborate? I'm slow. 🧠 🦥

[NicholasRedone]

Like a sloth I'm.

[Anonymous]

As a guy, if she's way too opinionated (rudely or stupidly), she's triggered, she's late, she has a short temper, she encourages her female friends to cheat and sleep around with guys, she doesn't put any friggin' effort on a date by talking... Like, bruh, say something; sheesh, don't waste my time.

[NicholasRedone]

Some chicks be cray Cray lol 🤯

[serious]

There is no biggest red nor there is a biggest green flags. There are always mutiple red flags and multiple green flags as far as love and relationships are concerned.

[Vampirelover_12]

When a man has a high body count. A man's place is in the kitchen. Period.

[Billlewis]

Yes, Madam, I recently began following you, and I'd be honored if you decide to either follow or message me, because I'd like to discuss the possibility of spoiling you a little once in a while. Thank you very much.

[adventurous-1]

when their attitude and behaviour towards me starts to change, there's a reason that causes that change and maybe it's time to back off and move on.

[Jove79]

Bunch of guy friends, if there’s any drama, a shoulder to cry on, becomes a sausage to ride on.


Social media.


Secretive with the phone, the phone will tell all

[Nikki1989]

Controlling behavior, rampant insecurities.

[NicholasRedone]

@CopperSD an attitude on a woman 👠👠😛 and not a good one either 😞😭

[exitseven]

If all her friends are guys she used to date and have sex with,

[Dargil]

Efforts at manipulation. Playing carrot and whip. Time to walk away quietly.

[Katalina04]

They stop talking when you enter the room, they take calls and step out, the turn phone screen down.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Faith.
If she believes anything without evidence, thats the biggest red flag.

[Sluttt]

All relatioship is risky. You do it on your own risk

[hello4433]

Them not being loyal and supportive

[NicholasRedone]

@hello4433 hell yeah hello, 🤗 you're so right man. Or they've got a shape shifting attitude/s - that doesn't fly well with me because then I think she's "just another manipulator" no matter how hot

[hello4433]

@NicholasRedone I agree!

[KarimM]

Controling, and abusive

[NicholasRedone]

Mmm some women can be and can be very butch those women and downright bitchy butch also ; even men can be victims :(

[bddddd]

violence

[DCVsMarvel2]

Dishonesty