Is there a woman that every man keeps as a backup?

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Basement-Bum · Accepted Answer

Being kicked off social forums left and right, and now you seek guidance on the elusive "backup girl." Well, my sad little troll, listen up, because I'm about to drop some knowledge that will make your eyes water more than when you accidentally rub your eyes after a session of furious fapping.

In the dark and murky waters of the dating world, there exists a creature known as the "backup girl." She is the mythical creature that every man dreams of keeping in his back pocket, ready to deploy at a moment's notice. But let me tell you, my unfortunate basement-dwelling friend, the concept of a "backup girl" is about as realistic as your chances of escaping your mother's basement anytime soon.

You see, the "backup girl" is a figment of the male imagination, a fantasy cooked up by horny incels who spend more time jerking off to anime girls than interacting with real-life women. The idea that there is a woman out there who is perfectly content with being your second choice, waiting patiently in the wings while you pursue other options, is nothing but a delusion. Women, my friend, have options. They have standards. They are not going to settle for being your consolation prize.

Now, I know what you're thinking. "But Mr. Troll, what about all those times I've seen a guy move on from one girl to another, leaving a trail of broken hearts and wet panties in his wake?" Well, my sad little friend, those are not examples of a "backup girl." Those are simply cases of men being indecisive, impulsive, or just plain horny.

The truth is, if you want a woman to stick around, you can't treat her like a spare tire in your trunk. Women crave attention, affection, and most of all, respect. They want to feel like they are your first choice, not your last resort. So, if you're looking for a "backup girl," you might as well keep dreaming, because the only thing you'll be backing up anytime soon is your mom's minivan when she takes you to the store to buy more Cheetos.

Now, let's talk about your backup options, because let's face it, you need all the help you can get, you sad, sad little troll. Here are a few tips to help you in your never-ending quest for female companionship:

1. Step away from the keyboard: I know it's tempting to spend your days spewing toxic nonsense on online forums, but if you want to meet women, you need to step away from the screen. Delete your incel forum accounts, put down the Cheetos, and go outside. Fresh air might do you some good.

2. Work on yourself: Before you even think about approaching a woman, you need to work on yourself. Get a haircut, shower regularly (I know, it's a novel concept), and for the love of God, buy some new clothes that don't have Cheeto dust all over them. Also, please, please, please, stop talking about anal sex and your mother in the same sentence. It's not doing you or @bondage_bruce any favors.

3. Change your attitude: Women are not objects to be collected or conquests to be achieved. They are human beings with thoughts, feelings, and dreams. Treat them with respect and kindness, and maybe, just maybe, one of them will give you the time of day.

4. Expand your horizons: Instead of obsessing over the idea of a "backup girl," why not focus on expanding your social circle and meeting new people? Join a club, take up a hobby, or volunteer for a cause you care about. Who knows, you might just find a woman who shares your interests and doesn't run for the hills when she sees you coming.

5. Seek professional help: Look, my friend, it's clear that you have some issues that go beyond your dating struggles. Your constant trolling, cyberbullying, and obsession with anal sex and your mother suggest that there are some deeper problems at play here. Consider seeking help from a mental health professional. It might just be the best decision you ever make.

In conclusion, my unfortunate basement-dwelling friend, the concept of a "backup girl" is nothing but a fantasy. If you want to find love (or even just a casual hookup), you need to change your attitude, work on yourself, and treat women with the respect they deserve. And please, for the love of all that is holy, stop trolling online forums and spewing your toxic nonsense. It's not doing you any favors.

As for your backup options, well, you could always try investing in a realistic sex doll. It's better than nothing, and it might just save you from a lifetime of loneliness and Cheeto dust-covered despair.

Good luck, my unfortunate friend. May your dreams of escaping your mother's basement and finding love one day come true. And please, for the sake of humanity, stop talking about anal sex and your mother. It's just not normal.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Do you see how probable this is going to be?

The backup girl was always a viable option. Even a simple prostitute will enable a man to keep himself from being sexually destitute. But the future is much brighter.

I will also say that I know from personal experience... a woman that thinks she is your only option is much more demanding and less servile than a woman who knows you can get balls deep in another woman with short notice. I only say this from experience. This is why I think it is wise, as a man, to show you have other options. The difference is getting shit tested and treated like trash to being served like a king.

So with that said, my short question to your answer is no, not every man keeps a backup... women do that practice more often than men. But... I think it is wise of a man to get and keep plenty of backup options. If you're a man, your quality of life with her will be much better and you'll get much more respect.

Crimsyjo · Accepted Answer

I think this could be asked both ways. And the answer is the same. I don't think realistically many people, men or women, keep a back up in mind. Not unless they are not ever really committed to having a relationship in the first place. Just my opinion. I could be wrong.

ApplePie409 · Accepted Answer

Yes. I've written about this extensively. Hot guys have destroyed online dating. But they couldn't have done it without stupid women falling for it.

AviatorTom · Answer

We have a spare tire in our car that we never use. Why not a spare woman?

Finchie40 · Answer

No this is something you Girls’ do

HawkPerception · Answer

There are a FEW men that do that kind of shit. Those are the men that are extremely attractive with a lot of money and usually of low character.

But for the most part, it's women that do that shit. Women use social media and post stories frequently broadcast their lives to others and get attention from everyone, making it easy to have another guy interested and have as a backup if they want to ditch the relationship. This is why I avoid girls that frequently post on their stories. They're usually egotistical and attention seeking.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I never had a backup woman in my life because i thought that when you honest, trustworthy and keep your promises than your other half will treat you the same, which means a backup ain't needed but now i wish if i had a backup because i was fooled with my innocence thinking that others who appears good to you are really good while they aren't at all!

STILL i can't be comfortable with the idea of a backup girl if i was in a serious relationship, i aim to find someone who is somewhat like me and if i can find this person than no need for backup!

blueonblack22 · Answer

This only works if the man has that kind of pull. Only 10 to 20% of men can have that many options. And I’m being very generous with that 20% number.

However women have an advantage in dating. If they are semi-attractive to attractive they can virtually always pull on an orbiter or find a rebound.

sawno · Answer

For me there never was a backup. My ex was the only one I cared about in the relationship and I didn't expect us to fail. The relationship seemed unbreakable. Even though ill now be less certain of it in the future i'd still not go for backup girls because it would distract from what I am after. And thats the deepest form of love humanly achievable with someone truly special.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

No. Most men don’t have the kinds of options most women have. So the majority of us are content with just one woman. We’ve also been socialized to accept rejection as a fact of daily life. So it’s not necessarily in our best interests to have a “backup” even if we could.

HighValue · Answer

Women often keep back up options of people they don't really want, but like to have around for after their bad life decisions disqualify them from the men they really want. Most men that want a long term relationship don't do that, including high quality men. The ones that do are the hook up/casual sex kind of people, not the LTR kind.

SotiCoto · Answer

... You're asking if there is one singular woman who is a backup for every single man on earth with no exceptions... including the dead ones and the ones who haven't been born yet?

Whoever she is, she is presumably immortal and possibly a shapeshifter, since individual standards vary a lot.

Billlewis · Answer

I think if anything, women tend to keep guys in reserve, in case their primary relationship doesn't work out.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I've never done that. It's the ultimate sign of disrespect if you keep someone on the side in case your "real" relationship tanks. You may as well hang a sign around your neck that says "women serve only one purpose... me".

WhitneySnow · Answer

Nope. Not every guy is hot enough or charming enough to have a backup (a lot can’t even get one girlfriend). And some are actually decent guys and don’t want a backup.

RavVid · Answer

I think there are women that men might hope to swoop up when their current relationship goes belly up. I don't it constitutes a backup in the same a guy friend might be for a woman.

molonski2 · Answer

Virtually every guy has a " back stop " a " go to " option , really if you are female its a position to avoid.

bobalife · Answer

Some guys have cats lol. Some attractive and good catch will try to have plans b, c, d, e if a don’t work out.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Some men have multiple women on stand-by and are proud to admit it.

JacobJordan · Answer

Guys don't keep back up women. We are 100% committed to the woman we are with UNLESS she gives us reason to not be.

Yannae · Answer

Is there a woman I know who is down to date me besides my girlfriend. Yes. Is she a back up? No. She, no offense, can not compete.

OfDeath · Answer

No because you can’t keep her. Sharon does the rounds a lot though so if you get her at the right time she can help you out.

Staximus · Answer

I know more women with backup guys than men with backup women

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yes, because side broads are seemingly EVERYWHERE !!!

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, some men to that, as well as some women. But its not every man or woman.

ryancg · Answer

No, I've always made the mistake of putting all my eggs in one basket.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

Yes I always have... And I'm also backup plan for few girls.

pethouse · Answer

No most men do not have the opportunity to have a “back up”

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

Is there a man that women keep as a backup You sure as hell bet

MikeyPH85 · Answer

Not every man... hell I ain't even got a main at this moment let alone a backup!!

Kimberly1979 · Answer

Women do it I knew few who did dated try to do to me. Didn’t end well for them.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm not a douchebag

spartan55 · Answer

I think you have that backwards.

egarcia1360 · Answer

That's (mostly) some woman shit lol

bowenw · Answer

Not that I am aware of.

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. That's kinda unrealistic and creepy tbh

genericname85 · Answer

lol as if men had so many options xD

Unit1 · Answer

Yes, her name is my right hand.

Rangers · Answer

Only shitheads with no loyalty do that

RossyBoi · Answer

No, there isn't.

Dongie · Answer

Not in my lonely freaking world.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Not every man. Some have a roster

Adogdog · Answer

Not me. I'm single all the way.

shortster · Answer

I don't even have a primary girlfriend

Anonymous · Answer

If there is she must be very popular.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, never had a backup.

DishLady · Answer

Probably.

FuqUFggt · Answer

The super sluty, sports liking, tomb boy.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I never have.

jahaims · Answer

Nope

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Not at all.

guyinterested · Answer

not me

0isabella1 · Answer

Maybe

eagle1951 · Answer

never had one

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