What man can love a woman who’s a doormat in a relationship/with men?

[Badguysss]

I don't know if I can change. But last time I ended up with a guy who wanted to humiliate me even in public.

I think something’s wrong with me.

I need a man who would take care of me not take advantage. That man was a lion. Like he just thought of himself. I was dumped like garbage once he was done.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh girl, I am so sorry you went through that. No woman deserves to be treated like garbage. You did NOT deserve to be humiliated or used in that way.

It sounds like maybe in past relationships you struggled with standing up for yourself and your needs. But that does NOT mean something is inherently wrong with you. So many women end up with guys who disrespect them before learning to value themselves more.

The good news is you have the power to change that and attract healthier relationships. It's a process, but you have so much wonderfulness inside just waiting to shine through once you believe in yourself fully.

Here are a few thoughts - focus on really loving yourself first before worrying about a man. Make your own happiness the priority. Spend time with people who treat you with care, respect and kindness. Learn to walk away from anyone who doesn't. You deserve nothing less, babe!

Also listen to your gut feelings more. If a guy sets off alarm bells early on, don't ignore it. A caring partner will make you feel safe, heard and cared for - not insecure or nervous. You've got this, girl! Rooting for you as you start to see how amazing you truly are.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, but you’re likely to keep running into the same type of jerk unless you make changes.

[Badguysss]

What kinda man would love me for real?

[Avicenna]

Plenty of them, but you need to screen them well. Get friends and family involved.

[Badguysss]

I have no friends or family. How do I screen them well? :(

[Avicenna]

You need to avoid dating for awhile then.

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can change something about yourself but I get the feeling that you don't even want to change otherwise you would have done it a long time ago.

I also get the feeling that you are not that unhappy that people take advantage of you since you had so many years to react but failed.

Forget fornication for a while. That is not something that is important in life. You have lost your dignity and self-esteem by behaving the way you do when you copulate left and right.

I fear that at this rate, nobody will want to love you because you don't give them a reason to. You need to want to change but you are satisfied the way things are.

[Gwendoline]

"I need a man who would take care of me not take advantage"

If you want a man like that you need to be a little but submissive

[Nikki1989]

Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, communication, and equality. You are failing that miserably.