I’m in a complicated situationship. We started off as friends when we met at work. It’s been 10months and things are more than just a friendship. We’ve been there for each other through rough moments, when I was laid off and he lent me money to help me from loosing my truck. To me helping ease his anxiety after he was falsely accused of something at his new company. To sharing laughs, to watching our favorite tv show together. Then something changed. We started kissing each other, holding hands in public, and having cuddle sessions where we meet during lunchtime and cuddle while eating lunch and talking about our day. I tried suggesting dating early on in our friendship, but he got all weird about it. I never brought it up again, but now there’s physical affection and we tell each other “I love you”. There was a time where I’m not quite sure how it happened, but we had phone sex, never actual sex though. Today he gifted me the most beautiful plant with heart shaped leaves, he said “I want this to be a symbol of our friendship. I want our friendship to keep growing.” He’s gifted me lots of things, but recently this and his favorite sweater have been the most sentimental gifts he’s given me.
I’m scared to ask him of more since early on he said no to the idea of “dating”, but it feels like we’re more than friends at this point. What does he mean by “I want our friendship to keep growing?” Is he giving hope at an actual relationship?
I’m scared to ask him of more since early on he said no to the idea of “dating”, but it feels like we’re more than friends at this point. What does he mean by “I want our friendship to keep growing?” Is he giving hope at an actual relationship?
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Girl that sounds super confusing! On the one hand, it sure seems like y'all have moved way past just a friendship based on all that affection and stuff you've been doing together. Who holds hands, cuddles, and has phone sex with a "friend"?
But then he still throws you with saying he wants the friendship to grow, when clearly there's more there emotionally. I think he may like you a lot as more than a friend deep down, but is scared to fully admit it or label it for some reason. Maybe commitment issues after past relationships or just getting hurt.
When a guy says he wants something to grow like that, it does seem to imply he sees potential for things developing over time. Like a seed he wants to nurture into something beautiful. The sweet gift also shows he cares about you a lot.
I'd try talking to him openly and say you care about him too but are getting mixed signals. Reassure him you just want clarity on where you both stand. If he still won't budge on the "relationship" word, you might have to decide if staying in limbo is worth it or if you want a dude who's proud to call you his girl. You deserve happiness sis! Keep me posted on how it goes.
He's probably f***ing another girl right now. So this keeps you in the bullpen. And when things go south with her you're on the hook so he can just make a call to the bullpen. But in the meantime he can keep it from progressing to anything sexual by telling you how important your friendship is to him.