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Saw this in a [pretty stupid] conversation between two male friends. They're in their 30s but act like they're in their 20s. One was about to text the girl he has been seeing, ask her out again. His friend stopped him to give him advice on what to say, not say. It inspired this question.

The scenario is between a guy and a girl (but you can do same sex couple if you want. But this is about gender roles and preferences.) They are not strangers. They know each other, but not that well. They have just started casually dating. They both like each other.

But... the guy is reluctant [will not] commit. He's anticipating her wanting this. He's trying to play it cool. But he wants to keep dating her, having sex with her, have her in his life. "She's cool, and she's chill, and she's level-headed. But I don't want to fast-track anything." So his friend says to him, "Just tell her, 'Look, maybe I'll get there one day, but I don't want to hold you back from living your life.'" Typical commitmentphobe player b. s. But anyway, thought I'd make a question out of it.

What I'm getting at here is if there's a majority preference toward: politeness, or assertiveness, or something else. And do guys and girls have a different, or the same, idea about this. And, girls, does the assertiveness turn you on/do you like it, or does it turn you off?

It'd be for some snacks/appetizers as well, not just drinks, but for simplicity sake I didn't write that in each multiple choice because it would be too many words. This isn't a formal or fancy dinner date, but there will be food, so don't focus on that. And for those who don't drink alcohol, you can sub in any other beverage. It's not important. But it is a date, and there is sexual tension between them.

So a few days ago I ran into a comment debate, two GAG users were debating, one user a male said that "black women are at the bottom of the barrel and men will not get into serious relationships with them" to which the female user replied and said to the male user

"speak for yourself and say that you, yourself put black women at the bottom of the barrel and that you will not get into serious relationships with them, because some men do get into serious relationships with them and put them at the top of the barrel".

This debate was quite heated I must say... these users added links to studies and statistics etc.

But now I want to know what other male GAG users have to say,

Do you guys put black women at the bottom of the barrel, are they your last pick and would you not get into a serious relationship with them, i. e. marriage?

DISCLAIMER: Race is a dating preference, therefore please feel free to honestly express your preferences what ever they might be, I will not judge you at all for it because almost everybody has racial dating preferences, and it does not make you a racist. It's like saying you prefer women with lighter skin -less melanin- because that looks attractive to you. Or even like saying you prefer women with darker skin-more melanin- because that looks more attractive to you, this is not racism.

There is nothing wrong with preferring people who you are visually attracted to.