I can't make sense of it, he tells me he loves me and sees a future with me but this is what he does continously? It leaves me hanging?

[saesun]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now. He's too busy for me he never messages me unless it's about him or memes. He takes hours to reply to me and when I message he says he's tired watching TV or sleeping or working. We barely talk he wasn't always like this. It's grown over time. I know I've always argued for not giving me importance and value or respecting my thoughts and opinions but since I let that go I feel like everything is off. I can't beg him anymore to value or respect me. Respect in a sense his humor is very painful, he's never serious even when I am and he's always laughing even when I'm crying. I'm not his priority. Tv, sleep, his guy friends, his youth and money is all he cares about I go through shit alone and I feel like im not even in a relationship.


I'm just lost it doesn't make sense to me or my minds not comprehending what's actually happening. Ur opinions?

[ElementoP]

It sounds like you've had enough of this guy. You want a bunch of strangers to convince you to leave him or tell you you're crazy, but only you can decide if that's something you want to deal with or move on to something better.
If you ask me, 2 years isn't a very long time and if you're already not sure about him it will be a lot worse around year 7, and that's 7 years of your life wasted with someone you're not even sure about.

(7 years is the average turning point for most long term relationships. They either end there or go on for decades after)

[ethanallen]

Women are so fucking afraid to be on their own without a boyfriend. That is why they are all monkey branchers. When I was in college, my freshman year girlfriend didn't want to have sex. I put up with that for 9 months. When I came back in the Fall of sophomore year, I told her that we should be having sex. She said no and I stood up and said "I'm going to have to end this." She got mad because she said she could have dated a lot of guys over the summer if i had told her this three months earlier in June. Her relationship just ended and all she can think about is how many other guys she could have dated. Three months later, she tells me that she misses me and all she sees is darkness. I thought to myself "What the fuck is she talking about. We never even had sex. I was optimistic as hell."

[chicosuave]

First of all you have to stop being needy when it comes to texting and the phone. The phone is only there to communicate when going out. Also to check if there still alive. Overall in the end he has taken you for granted but he hasn't left you yet. Which means he still loves you or maybe he got used too just having a girlfriend. Either you break up with him or make him work for you. Good luck.

[AviatorTom]

He may be a great guy but he's not ready to commit and settle down. If he's about the same age as you (25), he's probably still trying to figure out what's important to him and how to live his life.

If you think he's the guy for you, give him some time and see if he comes around to committing to you; you're both still young. If he doesn't, or if you don't want to wait, maybe it's time to move on and find the guy that's right for you.

[TheMajesticKing777]

Why are you even still in this relationship, this doesn't seem like anyone's form of happiness, all I'm seeing is your precious time flying out the window

[slatyb]

Who cares what he says? Is this how you want to live? End this and meet someone who cares about you.

[Anonymous]

Without proper communication, this relationship is going to fail.

[Guy13]

So, the words and actions are not matching?

[saesun]

Yes exactly

[Guy13]

Are the first 6 months and last 6 months activities the same? Have you looked at it from that perspective?

[saesun]

No, there's no effort he doesn't even celebrate our anniversary I tried to but he had plans with his mates. In the beginning he was putting in effort and now he just brushes me of it doesn't matter to him acts like he's to tired to give me care or attention. When there's activities I wanna do he'd rather do it with his guy friends

[Guy13]

Oh my, I'm sorry... it seems you are growing forward and he's like regressing or stuck. And two years is like shit or get off the bloody toilet Time...