Can someone make this make sense?

[Anonymous]

Ok me and my girlfriend over the course of a few years have had arguments and much of it stems from trauma that she’s been through and not adequately dealing with her mental health. She would tell me even that she didn’t deal with it the way she should have trauma from childhood and previous relationships. Ok so when I would mention we probably wouldn’t argue so much if she dealt with her mental health issues she would say I’m gaslighting her and that’s not the case at all because her family even acknowledges her struggles it led me to a point of maybe I should take a step back maybe I’m the issue but then her mom goes like you’re being abused and would tell her it’s wrong what you’re doing to him. There have been threats of breaking up on both sides but I have told her I deeply love her and want her to be well and will be there on her side. Fast forward to today she started a new job and she’s already clashing with management because they said something that she didn’t agree with.

[SnowedIn]

You're not gaslighting. She needs help and I mean that in a sympathetic way, not a bad way. Underlining this is what you said her mom said.

If you love her, stick with it, but be careful and make sure that your mental health isn't dragged down with hers.

[Guy13]

Sounds like anger management issues resulting from unaddressed psychological trauma. What’s your plan ⁉️

[Asker]

Like I don’t have one like I know if I bring it up it results in an argument then she closes off and will say I’m gaslighting her.

[Guy13]

Well, either you deal with it or you exit. It sounds like she does not plan to change, right?

[Asker]

Does this sound like I’m gaslighting

[Guy13]

No... it sounds like someone who does not want to hear what she already knows. From what is here, this is not even close to gaslighting.

[boggboss]

She is clearly not stable and she is ignoring that she is the issue not really sure what u are looking for as unless she gets help things won't just fix this is your lots relationship it won't get better

[Asker]

Well it’s not just the relationship I warned that this would spill into her professional life and now it is because she’s clashing with managers

[boggboss]

Thats my point

[Asker]

Does this sound like I’m gaslighting

[boggboss]

No she is blaming u because thats easier them dealing with her issues