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While book-smarts or street-smarts help a person in specific ways, Emotional Intelligence is what we use most in the real world -- it's the mindfulness, awareness and processing ability we have for both our feelings and the feelings of others.

Current research indicates that those with higher levels of EI draw others towards them... They're people who others genuinely want to be around for the long haul -- at work/school/relationships. Their kindness and compassion towards others shine through their EI, as does their ability to own up to their own decisions (instead of blaming them on others) and to treat others with respect and dignity.

Here 's a quick 20-point quiz for you guys and gals -- the most common signs of EI

(+1 for each point you "sort of understand" and +2 for each point you're really good at):

• Being able to know and accept yourself for who you are (with all your quirks and experiences)...
• Being able to accept responsibility for your actions and decisions...
• Being able to accept change as a standard part of life...
• Being able to control emotions rather than raging and lashing out and flying off the handle with verbal/physical outbursts...
• Being able to forgive yourself -- to show yourself some grace -- by leaving past mistakes in the past...
• Being able to talk through problems and challenges with others...
• Being aware of your own strengths -- and being able to admit to them...
• Being aware of your own weaknesses -- and being able to admit to them...
• Being modestly confident and poised -- and keeping your cool in challenging situations...
• Showing empathy and compassion -- putting yourself in another person’s shoes and seeing things from their perspective...

The scoring goes by 5s (see the poll, which keeps answers anonymous). Don't share your score in comments if you don't want to.

(Those with a low score wondering how to raise EI can search Google for free materials that are very helpful.)

I’ve been chatting with this guy that I met online for 4 weeks now. We’d planned to meet a couple times but us being on holiday got in the way. When we finally decided on a day, I suggested to reschedule and he also said it works better since he’s working intensely over the weekend - he’s in investment banking.

I suggested a couple days if he’s free and he mentioned would work much better as he’ll be in working the office that weekend. I then jokingly told him to get out of the office if he has not already last Friday and have not heard back since. The chats were also enthusiastic right before this

our chats have been great for past 4 weeks and he’s been quite consistent w messaging except right now. He did mention crazy past 2 weeks where he’s almost living in the office but I have not heard from him for 5 days now.

I’d just move on if it’s someone I have exchanged a few messages for 1 week with but we have been chatting for 4 weeks w multiple exchanges a day but knowing how scarce his time is, I doubt he’d just be texting to fill the void. What would you assume in my case?

I’m alternating being he’s genuinely busy and he’s moved on for some reason - bear in mind we have never met

Should i cut my losses or extend an olive branch? I don’t want to seem crazy and text if he’s moved on

And no I don’t have other portions. This is my only chance to be with someone or I’ll stay alone. I don’t want this life alone.

so which if these would you choose if you were me? __________________________________________

Guy 1: tall 5’11 1/2” pretty much 6’ with any shoes on.

Very attractive face and body works out almost everyday. Nice thick dick, brown eyes

does not have a good paying job or money saved up, he only works some days when they need him.

he lives with his mom in a small apartment and she’s very sick.
he is depressed and stressed

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Guy 2: not tall. 5’8 1/2” just average

Not ugly but not super attractive. he has gray beautiful eyes

not fit. Has a round stomach but the rest of his body doesn’t look fat, just big stomach. He doesn’t workout. (never seen his dick so can’t say about that)

He has a good job. He has his own flat. Lives alone in a tourist city very nice.

he has herpes type 1 (from the mouth not genitals) he got this since he was a baby, someone passed it to him so not from sexual interaction.

he works every day and trying to grow and learn more.