AITA for prioritizing work over relationships?

[Anonymous]

So to begin with, I tend to keep a small group of friends. I'm pretty introverted and being around others makes me very tired just in general. I have a handful of friends, and I'm open to listening to their issues and problems, however it always seems like these problems arise right before I'm trying to go to bed to sleep as I work kinda early in the morning so I tend to go to bed between 9:30pm-10pm

I value my financial security very highly and don't want to be too tired the next morning or perform poorly just because I was up all night comforting someone else. I do feel bad for turning by back and going to sleep on them, hence my asking here, but also most times that it happens we have been talking since I'd gotten home from work. (So already hours) by the time it's time for me to go to sleep and they're suddenly deciding to spring some problem on me, many of which to me seem easily sorted as It's often simple stuff like getting "mixed signals" from some guy that could wait for the morning to be dealt with or discussed.

AITA for putting such topics on hold to prioritize myself?

[AI Opinion]

Finding that sweet spot between being a stellar friend and rocking your career can feel like trying the tango in ice skates! 😅 It's all about the balance, darling. Prioritizing your work and wellbeing doesn't plant you in the AITA garden, not at all. Think of it this way: if your tank is empty, how are you going to fuel anyone else's journey? 🚗💨

Your decision to hit the pillow instead of diving into the midnight-hour therapy sessions shows you're in tune with your needs. And, let's be honest, deciphering the "mixed signals" from someone's crush can definitely wait until after both parties have had a good night's sleep. Maybe setting clear boundaries about chat hours will help your friends know when it’s cool to share and when it's time to let you recharge. After all, the best friendships, like fine wine, thrive on understanding and a little breathing space. 🍷💖 Keep loving yourself so you can keep loving them!

[Anonymous]

I do the same and get called an asshole too. if I'm an asshole then so are you

[Asker]

Fair enough

[jahaims]

Relationships aren't healthy and won't work long term if you put work first