Is it wrong to put your career before your relationship?

Question

I think it’s understandable if you’ve had that career for a while and you’re moving on up then you end up in a relationship and you don’t want to sacrifice your career for that person cause you’ve worked hard on it.

Wowgirl10q · Accepted Answer

No you have to And yes it sucks But really being independent is being able to stand if the guy leaves Thus the career

EarthFairy7 · Accepted Answer

Career is more important. Cause if by chance you break up, you'll at least be independent enough to feed yourself.

GreenGold1992 · Accepted Answer

Career The relationship could be over by next week for all you know, your job will still be waiting for you

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

No , i believe careers should come first.

StingRayxoxo · Answer

No, I think it varies person to person. When I was going to college, trying to get my life together, starting a new career, I didn’t date because I needed to focus on that. If I have a relationship, that’s always going to come first.

dantetheexplorer · Answer

Society treats most men based on the state of their careers. Successful Career = Successful Man. Unsuccessful Career = Loser.

Society treats women based on how they balance family, friends, career, love, relationships, etc. A woman who manages to balance all of these things = Successful Woman.

Therefore, a man's career will always be viewed, by society at least, as an incredibly important aspect of his person, of his very being, of his value. The effect is considerably less in women: society defines women less by their careers, more how they balance everything in their lives.

Therefore, when it comes to putting career before relationship, it has been my observation that men are more likely than women to put career before relationship. I say "more likely" because there are women who put career first, of course, but from my observations, there are more social "penalties" inflicted on men who don't put their careers first.

ImagineInsanity · Answer

I agree with some of the people in the comments, it’s a matter of balance more so than one over the other. If you are dating someone for a short time, then yes, career comes first, and naturally this is true if it’s a job you really love.

That said, your partner should also be a priority. It’s not fair to them to neglect them over a career, but it’s not fair to you to give up something you love for a person who (assuming you’re not married) may not always be there. Partners are like any relationships, they require attention and devotion to flourish. Neglect them and you won’t have them long. You should definitely make yourself a priority and make clear your dedication to your career, but always strive for balance. If you can’t give your partner the attention and love they deserve because you’re TOO invested in your career over them, maybe just don’t be in relationship, since it would seem you can’t handle balancing the two in a manner that is healthy and beneficial to you both.

JudgmentDay · Answer

You NEED to be able to have an income to pay for rent, mortgage, bills, etc. feed yourself and put food on the table. I always see relationships as completely optional and unnecessary instead of a "necessity". Nobody needs a relationship to live like they need air and water to live. One can learn to live without it. But I can see why some put "value" and "importance" into relationships because they want to start a family and crave that so badly. So decide, which you believe is the most "important" to you or "matter" the most to you. Do you really want a family of your own and have kids of your own? If the answer is no, then I don't see why not put career as Priority Number 1.

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Answer

fuck no... a career move up would be nice. making money is cool and all, but it's not the only thing and it doesn't guarantee happiness. happiness is more important than work. and i say this as someone who regularly puts in 10 hours a day working. you know that the most common regret was saying they shouldn't have worked so much or so hard? To each their own and some have their own ambitions, but life's more about having fun to me and being with people you love than how much money you make. unless you hate your job and need to quit, it's not worth sacrificing if you love the person that much, to me.

LegendarySir · Answer

Depends on what you really want in life. Many times, sacrifices have to be made, so you gotta decide which sacrifice is needed.
The problem nowadays is that it's kinda looked down on people to put your relationship first, so you're "forced" to choose your career, and that's why you get all these 35+ year old people dissatisfied with life and yearning for love.
Whether we try to say different or not, humans need that emotional bond that comes from a relationship (the vast majority at least), so if you believe the person you're with is the "one", then stay with them. You can get a new job, but you will never get someone the same as the one you left.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. If you aren't paying attention to your partner and are always late for anniversaries, dates with partner and life events planned together to the point where you forgot and etc then that's not good.

However if you are still meeting your partners needs and everything else then it's okay. I don't see anything wrong with putting career first. Most of the time if you don't have a job, most girls or boys wouldn't date you. My brother was a damn bum. His girlfriend paid for everything. She got tired of it and left him. I applaud her.

Northern_star · Answer

i LOVE my jobs, i mean really. and financial security is not a bad thing to have. even in a relationship🙂. still i think methodically, if u really found that one person you want to be with for the rest of your life that person is more important than money or carreer, by that i dont mean you should simply quit ir sy like that, if u have a responsibility you gotta fullfill that. but theoretically you two could choose to leave it all behind and sell corndogs in a shore and still feel u have a full life for u are together. ok maybe im crazy.

TayTay21 · Answer

Depends on the relationship. If it's just some random guy you're seeing, then yeah you're career is more important. But if it's your marriage, you're a fool to put career ahead of that. The question becomes, if your career is such a big part of your life now, why are you even in a serious relationship?

Mason2136 · Answer

The other person shouldn’t make you feel like you gotta choose if they really want to be with you. If they’re smart they’d know you’re trying to better yourself and in turn better them.

Wolfy39 · Answer

I would say no. Anything else is a gamble.
It boils down to trust and satisfaction.
Will you still be satisfied if you give up part (or all) your career for that someone.
Do you trust that person enough to know she is worth the sacrifice in the long run.

Johnnie1000 · Answer

You don't need to give up one for the other. This is why men look for specific types of girls, I wanted a girl who help with my career and do it together. Patient when work took me away or kept me from going to places. She spent time going to wives get together in the evening. It wasn't one or the other. We did it together.

joebbray1829 · Answer

I feel like career should come first, relationships are very unpredictable if you lose your relationship it's not the end of the world but lose your career and you'll have a very difficult time. I love romance and relationships but taking care of your livelihood is more important

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Voted no. Put a person needs to decide what is more important to them wheather their man or woman.

I don't think a career can get in a way of a relationship unless that person is working crazy hours that literally they have little to almost nothing to give in the relationship.

Adrianna7868 · Answer

Relationships come and go; your career is how you put food on the table. It also depends if the career is something risky such as filmmaking. I do believe that in this case, it's important to stay grounded but also encouraging of their potential.

reptocarl · Answer

Depends on what you value. Don’t say “I love you” then leave me for a career opportunity or advancement

nailu · Answer

nothing is reliable these days, but it’s probably easier to get back to your career than it is to find decent relationship

alice55 · Answer

You're forced to put it first no matter if you want it or not if you don't you'll get fired. Personally I would prefer to put boyfriend before career but it aren't possible.

spartan55 · Answer

If someone has to put that much into their careers then they have no business being in a relationship.

ThisAndThat · Answer

Putting careers before relationships and marriage is what feminism has taught which is why there's so many reaching their 30's to find out it's too late to start a family..

zagor · Answer

Not if it's someone you just met and it could be over in a week.

Littlewife · Answer

Yes if your stringing that person along with the idea of a future with you.

Catacious · Answer

I think that a career is more important than a relationship, but a marriage is more important than advancement.

lanabug · Answer

It depends but ultimately no. I dont think there's a time when a relationship is more important than doing your job. You have to find someone who accepts your priorities.

weasley8 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with it. Everyone has their own list of priorities. It's not my place to tell you what you should put first.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't, I am very focused on my career and can't devote the time to a relationship so just have a couple fwbs to satisfy my sexual cravings which keeps me happy and I can better focus on my job and life without relationship complications

BluesheepOwl · Answer

Sounds selfish when you put it that way. More like the guy you are with shouldn't expect you to put your life on hold for him. That's better

murdanyc916 · Answer

Depends, if you are single, the career comes before the relationship. If you are already in a relationship, it would be VERY wrong of you to hurt that person over a career

AynonOMouse · Answer

Depends. Would you rather have lots of money and be alone with no family, or make a modest living but have a caring family? That's what it usually comes down to.

Browneye57 · Answer

Everybody has their priorities. If you don't make your SO one they won't be one. That does not mean you have to give up on your career.  Try for BALANCE. Seriously.

Blackbrowny · Answer

I said yes, but it really depends on the relationship.

vald9inches · Answer

i thought relationships are a form of career for girls? 😂

TonyBologna25 · Answer

If you're married, then your priority should be on your husband/wife. If not, then career.

Kemil_Zhoki · Answer

As one of the biggest problems in relationships is money, putting the career first can in the long run be best for a relationship.

BrownBratzDoll · Answer

Its smarter and preferred. Career over man not unless he a millionaire

JubJub_Hi · Answer

Sometimes yes. It depend how much you value relationship :)

Rexxx · Answer

No, but it's also ok if they want to leave you because of it.

legalboxers · Answer

I did it.. for 15 years.. I got burned by it. Im left with nothing because of it

Anonymous · Answer

Hell yeah, because if someone honestly truly wholeheartly loves a person they'd ALWAYS put them first no matter what. Something like your job shouldn't be more important than your significant other.

Anonymous · Answer

It's not wrong, but there is a tradeoff so you need to determine what's more important for you.

newPython · Answer

No money, no honey.. remember that...

roseypopxox · Answer

No, not at all It’s all about the moneyyy

RIVERTAY888 · Answer

l would go for the girl

rickytim · Answer

Yes it is your relationship should come first

SSuar19 · Answer

spoil women need money

Anonymous · Answer

Career, bitches are a dime a dozen.

Eryxx · Answer

Nope

chunlilovesvega · Answer

heart before stomach

Coolgirl235 · Answer

Nope.

DzDzhhh · Answer

Yes, wrong.

DavidBowiesBabygirl · Answer

Nah.

nubianqueen704 · Answer

Not at all.

Halucinator · Answer

Nopenopenope

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

I think you should

Kelly6 · Answer

Very wrong

facialhair27 · Answer

no, it is not

FckTheRichAndFamous · Answer

No, it's smart

RussianGirl11 · Answer

No...

Razal · Answer

Nope

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