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This question is aimed at anyone currently in a committed relationship or if you have been in a committed relationship.

Here is the scenario, try to really imagine yourself in it: You and your partner have been together almost a year, there has been an occasion where they kept a secret from you which had been negatively impacting the relationship as a whole to the point you break up but then a month later you manage to talk and get back together. From this point on they are fully aware that you expect full transparency and honesty and no keeping things from each other, it's agreed upon.

Now 2 mths later they decide to tell you that they would like to make some German friends that live in their city. The reasons so they have someone to speak the language with to keep themselves fluent and the other reason so that their children can also have some German kiddy friends. All very understandable. You support that.

They then tell you they made a friend of the opposite sex who has children and they are on each others Facebook and have been messaging the last day or two. Your partner wants to meet up with them and continue to get to know them. You are mature and handle the situation like an adult and voice a few concerns about establishing boundaries but everything is good.

Later that night you decide to check out this German Facebook group out of curiosity and you find your partner has entered into a conversation with another member of the opposite sex and they are in the process of organising a meet-up for the very next day..

You have been chatting with your partner since they spoke to the potential friend and no mention of any of it at all. It's obvious you have been kept in the dark on this one and definitely not included.

How would you honestly feel? I want feedback too.

My boyfriend and I after being together for almost a year just broke up. I was the one who ended things because he just can't seem to understand that its not right to be secretive and hiding things in a relationship. We have had a few issues as of late and a major one has been his lack of honesty and him choosing to keep me in the dark over some important stuff over the duration of the relationship. He has not been transparent with me fully and I believe that is a requirement in a healthy relationship, well its definitely one of mine anyway!!

The shit hit the fan on Saturday night when I discovered he had not involved me or made me aware of something that I feel I had the right to know, there was no including me in it and running it past me and it was the straw that broke the camels back in the end, I just couldn't take another moment of it especially when he knew I was upset and tried to pass it off as nothing when it was something to me. This just added to the issue as I felt he was invalidating my feelings as his partner. The next morning I decided that I had really just had enough and did not wish to keep the relationship going. We haven't spoken since Sat night.

I had not taken him off my Facebook even though I had ended things. He puts up 2 memes on Sunday taking a dig at me knowing they would show up in my news feed and I would see them. This morning I find that he had posted a big colourful big lettered post saying: 'It was fantastic to catch up with you again Melanie, thanks for the coffee and good luck for today" He had a big smiley face up and even went to the trouble to tag her in the post so it appeared on hers as well.

Melanie is his ex girlfriend that he had before me a good 2 years ago. Obviously he had put it up so that I could see it because he knew that it would upset me. I must say it did kind of sting a little knowing that he had run back to his ex the day after we broke up for coffee. I blocked him. Why do this?