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Perhaps a month ago, I asked users how they envisioned their life being different 5 years from now and whether they had a plan for bringing about the changes that they wanted. A few responders were apathetic or pessimistic but most envisioned some positive changes. However, very few expressed any plan for how they would make those changes happen.

I believe that self-confidence is one of the most important qualities a guy can have for attracting a partner for a long term relationship. I also think that having a plan and following a plan is a large component of self-confidence. Having a plan does not necessarily mean going to college, getting a business job, wearing a suit every day. It can mean going to a vocational school or serving an apprenticeship and becoming a journeyman in a trade. (A journeyman electrician can earn $75,000 per year; the average pay for a locomotive engineer is $110,000 per year.)

So now I am asking if a guy having a plan for how he wants to improve his life, and then actually following that plan, makes a guy more attractive to you as a potential partner for a long term relationship.

So these days, it's not necessarily a new thing and has been happening for ages, but tattoos and piercings seem to be becoming increasingly more and more popular, and it's kind of becoming harder to find someone with NO tattoo and piercings, rather than with someone who does have them.

All the "cool" people and celebrities seem to have them, and the ones who don't are discussing what tattoos and piercings they think look cool, and when and where on the body they will get them...

But I personally just never got the appeal.

I never necessarily exactly desired to have any tattoos and piercings myself, and I don't think they necessarily make anyone look better.

Now I wouldn't exactly turn off a decent woman just because of one small simple tattoo or a simple piercing, but if she had them all over like the second woman in the above photo... I don't think I could exactly get turned on by her.

The thing is, on women, I kind of love pure, smooth skin... it just kind of looks more feminine/softer and welcoming to me... like the woman in the first photo... but if her skin is just completely covered up by tattoos and such, it doesn't look quite as feminine to me/kind of rough, and kind of looks aggressive and unapproachable.

But in the end, this kind of thing doesn't matter either ways.


It's completely subjective and not exactly based around any logic. And regardless of what seems to be "cool" in the media, no one's perceptions of beauty is necessarily 100% the same.

Perhaps some people feel the complete opposite I do, and think that no tattoos and piercings looks too "boring" and "basic."

But regardless, I'm still interested in what people have to say, as my opinion seems to be more on the unpopular side.