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Its amazing how im 42 and still learning things about myself. So what i mean is lets say i just got off work and want to say do the laundry at home. I need a small maybe 10-15 minute buffer before i go ahead with it. You might also call it simply a pause to simply allow my brain to reset itself and brace for the next activity so i can go at it with 💯 mental energy and clarity.

looks like im not the only one who needs this cause i found this article on it. https://dakharipsyc.com/blog/mental-buffer-time/

Why These Short Pauses Matter

Constant activity with no breaks can lead to mental fatigue, shorter attention spans, and more stress. The mind works best when it has a little space to reset. Even a couple of minutes is enough to:

- Process what you just finished, so nothing lingers in the background
- Calm any tension or anxiety before moving on
- Give your brain a break from always being “on”

If you’ve ever felt on edge or stuck in a cycle of busyness, buffer time acts as a natural speed bump, helping you slow down so you can move forward with greater wellbeing.

Hey I just wanted to say thank you for being a great girlfriend the past year. I’ll always have great memories from our time together (whether it’s our hot tub with the bugs in Wales, neon painting in the cavern, playing Skyrim, picking out vinyls for listening parties, feeding birds or playing around in museums with your creative mind). I’ve learnt so much about myself and what I want and need in relationships especially given my lack of experience (not counting non serious 20s ones, I’d say you were my first proper adult relationship) and I’ve learnt how to take better photos. 😜

Even though it didn’t work out in the end (and I think on reflection it was the right decision), Im grateful you gave me the opportunity to get to know you and be a part of your life and purple haven & helping me find a bit more confidence :) I hope the next chapter of your life brings you much joy and happiness and ultimately, I hope you find what you’re looking for :) It’s up to you but I hope we can part on good terms and Im happy to keep in touch if you are :) but for now, I bid you farewell.