How do you deal with being a single mom of a one year old with his dad not helping financially to make sure he gets things?

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Im doing everything by myself and I feel overwhelmed.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Have you thought about taking the dad to court. This is the sad part about young people getting pregnant and the girl has to be come responsible and the father doesn't pay any child support. And out of every guys mouth I'm not give her any money so she can buy stuff for herself what that jack ass doesn't realize is you are still paying more than him and you are not only paying you go with out just so your baby has diapers and baby food and formula
And you might get lucky and your mom might take care if the baby for 4 hours so you can get a part time job and still not have enough money

This is why I tell girls if your boyfriend says he loves you but he doesn't want to have sex with economy. He doesn't love you because if he loved you he would protect you would protect him.

Girls, you are the boss of your body. Nobody else's do not listen to guys.
It will tell you they love you get you pregnant. And then they're gone. Then you have to raise the child by yourself. If you're lucky you have family that will help you. Where's his family? Where's he at?

They don't even care sad very sad but 1 day they will come into your lives and take you to court. So they can see their good job. Finen your son's back child support. And then you can do that

You either find your way to make him pay. Or you zip it up and you keep putting one foot in front of the other. And it's the same time you raise your child to be the best person that you can be. Anytime your child you trust, let them watch. So you can sleep

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I was helping someone with her two daughters who weren't even mine biologically and in the end she falsely accused me of expecting her to be dependent on me which wasn't even true and she still to this day never lets me live it down about how i asked for the money back during an instance of 2-3 days when we had a massive fight back in April (which was the only instance in the span of almost 2 years) but immediately contacted the supervisors and managers asking to cancel the requests made she never told people that part just the parts that made me look bad

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Give up hopes of this guy helping you, except through the courts. File for whatever you can, but decide to do your best for your son.

Seek help from any and all agencies that might be able to aid you with education, training and financial support. A social worker should be able to start you on that path and will be able to help you identify how you can improve your own life so you can improve your son's life.

So avail yourself of these aids, and put your son's father on the back burner, because it doesn't sound like he's the responsible type, or will come through in the short run. And if there is a court ruling in your favor, if he leaves the area, you may never collect on that ruling.

This is not to depress you, but to solidify in your mind that you are the support for your son. If you can get training and education to improve your work prospects, get that. Then whether you do or don't get child support won't be as important. And have a regular therapist to talk to to work through these stresses.

It won't happen immediately, but eventually, you'll do well, and so will your son with the stronger mother you'll develop into! Good luck!

Unycorn · Accepted Answer

I dont know how it is where you live.

I struggled also as a single mom.

I tried to study, work and raise my child. I could have done more if I had more energy. I was sad but didn't want to show. I want to show you work and you will make everything good.

My child learned that you needn't to have everything what others have. I never blamed it on the dad
A child cannot understand. I talked with my child at the age of 18 about. It was so hard for my child. So earlier would be to earlier.

Cooking, getting things for free but not trash. Buying food cheaper because it should be eaten in some future days. So there is a discount.

Not big brands... the no name products.

Potatoes, rice, bread. Whole grain. Not too much meat/sausages.

For some Euros/dollars kids can eat a meal in the 12.00 h break at school. I pay that and cooked only weekends. I eat bread and fruits. Sometimes of course Kebap or going out eating.

Shoes new. Clothes second hand.

That's how I did it. Dont know if it works in the States also.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

This is why you don't let losers knock you up.. most likely you knew he was a loser but still chose to have his baby.. All you can do now is take him to court or try to speak to his family they might help out if it his defo his kid..

Iquestioneverything · Answer

I knew someone in a similar situation, the guy was a jerk. But his family was actually very supportive and she turned to them (and her own family and friends) for help. I know it sounds horrible but you got to be strong for yourself and your baby even if he isn’t helping.

Lliam · Answer

What made you think that having a baby was a good idea when you weren't married and didn't have the means to support yourself and the child?

FreyaRed · Answer

Give it free for adoption if you can't handle it. Even in some children gulag this child will have better life than with mother who is incapable to raise a child.

Lynnzee · Answer

You can do it stay strong. Depending on where you live there maybe community resources available. When my kids were young I would shop at goodwill. They grow out of clothes so fast.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Can you get some legal help to force him to help out with finances and/or raising the kid? How old are both of you? Was it in relationship or a one night hookup?

abc3643 · Answer

And this is why you get married before making babies.

slatyb · Answer

Can you get support from your family? Have you filed for support? Do that.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

How much have you spent on kids clothes in the last 6 months?

Staximus · Answer

Take him to court and get child support awarded, and stop letting pieces of shit get you pregnant

Likes2drive · Answer

That’s what the court system is for and you take him for child support and they will garnish his wages

genericname85 · Answer

are there not laws to enforce him helping financially where you live?

LiamJHayden · Answer

Go to court, prove he is the father, put him on child support.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Why don't you get back together and be a family, wouldn't it be better for all of you?

Nice222 · Answer

It is tough. I wish you didn’t ask this as anonymous so we could message and I could maybe help you somehow.

HollyK21 · Answer

Why not just get child support?

Finchie40 · Answer

Take him to court and file for child support

exitseven · Answer

Get a lawyer and take the dad to court.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Leave him. One less thing to worry about

JDLives · Answer

Take him to court and garnish his wages

blackeagle007 · Answer

You gotta take him to court

Hulk30 · Answer

just play StepDaddy if ya serious

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