Why would my bd want me to give him money but he not even helping me with our son I'm doing everything by myself?

[Anonymous]

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8 mo

He don't think he entitled to spend money on our son because he don't see him like that. It's not my fault. My child father is emotionally, verbally and Physically abusive to me so I don't take our son around him like that but he do see him.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

That situation isn’t just unfair it’s backwards.

If he’s not showing up for his child, not contributing, and has a history of being abusive, then him asking you for money says a lot about where his priorities are.

Men who want to be fathers don’t dodge responsibility and then treat the mother like a bank.

He’s asking because he knows you’ve carried everything alone.

People like that often take advantage of the fact that you’re strong and steady, hoping you’ll keep filling the gaps they create.

But here’s the truth
He’s responsible for his child whether he “sees him like that” or not.

Parenting isn’t optional.

It’s not based on mood, convenience, or whether the relationship worked out.

And his abuse is exactly why you’re protecting your son that’s you being a good mother, not blocking him.

At this point, giving him money will only reward bad behavior.

If anything, he should be supporting you and the child, not the other way around.

Focus your energy on keeping you and your son safe, stable, and surrounded by people who actually show up.

The rest including his entitlement isn’t yours to carry.

[Anonymous]

Because you chose a deadbeat bum to be the father of your child.

[spartan55]

Hmmm, why? Because he's a piece of shit loser? What kind of question is this?

[slatyb]

Why would you even think about it? Have you filed for support?

[Asker]

Yes I filed got second interview today

[Ariesman81]

Girl, it sound like he want some of that SNAP benefit action so he can get his self a deluxe apartment in the sky

[888theGreat]

Because you allow it and he will give it to the other chick he is banging

[jahaims]

Because he is trash