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Was with my ex boyfriend once, and he was driving us to go somewhere irrelevant to the story. I was wearing a pair of old flip flops of mine, and he leans over from his spot driving and very awkwardly compliments my shoes. I was kinda startled, because we were pretty early into our dating relationship, and he rarely complimented me, and if he did it seemed strained. I chalk that up to his awkwardness, but still.

It’s something that’s stuck with me, because I don’t understand why he’d compliment my flip flops? It’s not like they’re actually anything cute, they’re kinda old and very plain looking. I can only assume he was looking at my feet and wanted to compliment me but didn’t know a less weird way to do it?

I seem to attract people (as people not as love interest) relatively easy.. as in we meet, click, hang out. That’s more than good enough for me. But often at some point they think I’m into them for “more.”

I really don’t want to date anyone.

I also don’t want to tell people I’m not dating & coke off as if I’m assuming they will like me—it’s obnoxious.

I also hate the awkwardness when things are misconstrued…

28F, just leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like I’m a runway model yet guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches has never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? Even when I was more engaged it still led to the same pattern of no success. A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person? I dated someone for a few months back when I was 23 & after dealing with someone I felt like I settled for, I decided I’d rather be alone vs be with someone I am not crazy for. I’m kind of at the point where I’m apathetic & I just feel too old to be bothered.