Why am I a victim of body shaming?

Question

I am a 5ft5 female and I am usually in the healthy weight range weighing anywhere between 139 pounds to 157 pounds. I do go to the gym to use weights but not regularly like how I want to. I am a vegetarian and still eat fish or shrimp from time to time. I have cut out eating sugar these past five months. I've noticed over these past few months almost on a everyday basis now I get some type of comment regarding my body and how "small" or "skinny" I appear to be others. I get people calling me "Minnie me" or asking me how much I weigh. Criticizing my eating lifestyle and my body built. Constantly looking or breathing down my neck when I eat. People often just assume I weigh 15 or 19 pounds less than what I really am. When I do tell people how much I weigh they try to debate me on it altogether. And I get body shamed by men and women. This happens more often at work. It also occurs in my personal life with family members, and love and dating life. When I am with a guy 9 times out of 10 I'm given the impression the guy is not attracted to me. Other womens bodies or body parts that appear bigger than mines are always the topic of discussion. In my eyes I just look slim with some curves. I don't look normal startling skinny or malnourished in any way and I definitely do eat well. I do get a few nice compliments but that is rare. Some people say I appear to look like a ballerina or gymnastics girl

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’m about the same size (140 my ideal weight is 130/135 but babies lol) and Americans say I’m tiny or skinny too 🙄 I’m like yeah, sure. It’s funny because I have been actually skinny and underweight before so I can’t take it at all seriously. For me though I don’t feel like it’s body shaming it’s like neutral comments, a lot of compliments too and comments like I don’t look like I eat fast food or candy, nothing I personally find offensive but I see how it could be annoying if you are sensitive to comments on your body. I never feel unattractive because of my weight or size I am happy with my body.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

People told me I was a fat in high school when I was 5"3 and 120 pounds. My friend said a Hollywood actress was disgustingly skinny because she was 5"5 and 110 pounds. If you act like you're a beauty queen - normal people will treat you like one. Beauty is not absolute, its based on presentation and behaviour.

art84 · Accepted Answer

People will always body shame no matter what weight you are. My nephew is 15 years old and weighs like 120 pounds and is really skinny though my mom always tells him to gain weight as he looks unhealthy. My nephew does eat but really picky on food. At your height, I think your weight is good if your watching what you eat and working out. Just ignore people who put you down for not looking a certain way.

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

The "problem" is that you're actually normal weight in an obsese society. You look out of place in how "skinny" you are. The same thing happens to me. I'm smack in the middle of my military weight range, but when I'm with civilians they underestimate my weight by 30-40lbs. People have forgotten what normal weight looks like because they see it so infrequently.

LazerBean · Answer

I doubt you are. You do not sound particularly skinny at all, and it sounds like at most people are only commenting as a compliment. But actually openly shaming you? I doubt it. You're almost 30 and I think it's time for you to stop fishing for attention.

Anonymous · Answer

I think most people feel it's ok to belittle skinny people and not fat people
the same for white people and black people
some people think they can belittle white people and not black people
same for tall and short
I believe it's because they see thin as not being insulting witch their words as they make fun of you because being thin is mostly wanted by most, so they disregard whatever you may actually feel and don't even realize they are hurting your feelings, same for when people are racist to whites they think that because in general white has ben perceived as the most desired color, that one cannot possible be racist to whites and don't care to hurt someone's feelings, as oppose to fat people, as oppose to black people as oppose to short people etc. it's all the same.

Everyone an get hurt just the ignorance of people is too ridiculous and it's among the majority of humans in deed.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

As women we are all victims of body shaming no matter how we look. What’s worse is those comments usually come from other women…

When I was a teenager I was always told I need to lose weight. When I was in my 20s I became quite skinny, I think it was just a hormonal thing, and I was always told I’m too skinny lol.

We can never win basically. Just embrace your body. What matters is you are content and doing your best to look after your body in the way you should.

ChipTooth · Answer

Man if Your eating healthy, exercising and training Your body to what it needs to do stuff everyone, You body's just gonna be what it is. Internet has a way of fucking with people and maybe Your fishing don't know but If someone you know and love tells you to do you at your age don't take it was them just saying it to say it, just take it as experienced advice Your not a kid You know that they don't see You that way either.

RingOfFire · Answer

139-157 at 5'5" is definitely not skinny under any circumstances for a woman. So it seems like something else is going on here. Sounds to me like you have issues with your own body and are more sensitive than you should be to what others say about you.

aquamarine321 · Answer

Body shaming isn’t something new, it has been here since the beginning of time in cultures where females should look a particular way and it has past down from time to 2023 and beyond, body shaming will never end especially for a female, but the best thing for you to do is stay healthy and eat healthy

inhua · Answer

too mild to be considered body shaming. if this below is what you're facing then sure real body shaming

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Stating preference =/= shaming. Stating observation =/= shaming. Feeling like a victim because not everyone agrees with you = self shaming.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

Look them straight in the eyes and say with a stern voice „I am not discussing my body!“ Over time even the most obtuse idiot should get the message.

Levin · Answer

You live in the US. 'Normal' for your height is probably 180 lbs to a USian. But in reality I'm guessing it should be in the 120lbs to 140lbs range.

MementoMori777 · Answer

People's minds on reality nowadays are twisted thanks to social media and the internet in general, it's why you shouldn't judge yourself based on others opinions.

stepyo99 · Answer

Girls: body shaming *clap* is *clap* not *clap* cool *clap* Also girls: So my future husband must be 6'5" with a body like Brad Pitt The 19th amendment was a mistake.

Summeroflove · Answer

Because they’re trolls and bullies. Just block them… They’re only there to tear you down and provoke a response out of you

TracyF · Answer

Girl you need to stop worrying. People will be stupid always. Next time it happens, ruthlessly mock them for asking or saying such a stupid thing to you. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone. Just be you.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Don’t listen to them. You’re probably really pretty with a nice slim body you should be proud of.

DextroShade · Answer

At 5'5" you should be 120 lbs, so I don't get them calling you too skinny. Not creeping, but you should have posted a picture, neck down if you want to stay anonymous.

Likes2drive · Answer

Your weight is not a skinny weight for your height, I guess it’s muscle, don’t know why they are saying that. Don’t have a picture of your body to know why either

AdithyaR · Answer

Some people are just jerks. They're gonna try and demean others no matter what cause they're projecting their own insecurities onto others.

fonduegirl · Answer

I'm sorry you have are going through this. People are shit.

Northernmost84 · Answer

I’m sorry to hear this, it’s definitely a cruel world out there. I think a lot of women and probably men are victims of shaming. It is very cruel to be sure.

mommymommymommy · Answer

Who isn't a victim of body shaming. You just don't hear people complaining about it, unlike this

clampfan101 · Answer

Ballerinas are beautiful and gymnastics girls are hot. So many types of girls are super attractive.

In_Trance · Answer

It's like... you're creating an issue just so you can be a part of something

poetic_pisces · Answer

done think about them

TrillXHippy · Answer