I have dated a lot of women, and either I am Self-Centered, or they are Self-Absorbed. What's the difference and what is worse?

I have dated a lot of women, and either I am Self-Centered, or they are Self-Absorbed. Whats the difference and what is worse?

Self-Absorbed - people see their interests and adventures through their own eyes. They assume what's fascinating to them is fascinating to others. They assume other people value the same things they do....

www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-practice/202103/3-reasons-self-absorbed-people-are-so-draining#:~:text=Self-absorbed%20people%20see%20their,technology%2C%20travel%2C%20or%20aesthetics.

Self-Centered - individuals have sense of entitlement that leads them to be carelessness, arrogance, or having a lack of empathy that prohibits them from seeing how their behavior affects others....

www.insider.com/guides/health/sex-relationships/self-centered

I have dated a lot of women, and either I am Self-Centered, or they are Self-Absorbed. Whats the difference and what is worse?

Self-Centered what's the deal with these types? Accusing someone of being self-centered is such an easy thing to do... it's almost at the point of honestly having no meaning in today's society. Think about it for a second and detach yourself from the negative connotations.

Who in this world, knows us better than ourselves? Who else in this world, knows your every thought, or every emotion... who else knows how the external environment is affecting you on a physical and emotional level more than you at this exact moment?

In this way we are all at the center of our own universes, we are the center of gravity for everything within our own lives. We all are our own planet, and all others are either moons, asteroids or other planets that orbit us, and even impact us... but we all are at the center of or focus of power within our own life. At what point does this come at the expense of others?

I have dated a lot of women, and either I am Self-Centered, or they are Self-Absorbed. Whats the difference and what is worse?

Same can be said, with being too self-absorbed. It easy to get carried away with your own feelings, and interests. I mean it is these feelings that drive us and motivates us to succeed, energizes us to go set goals and gives us a sense of accomplishment at the end of each day. To some degree we are all self-absorb, we have our own needs and wants, and at times it's hard not to put the blinders on. Because we all must care for our own needs on some level, but at what point does that come at the neglect of others?

In my opinion there is not a person in this world that is neither self-centered or self-absorb to some degree, so the conversation is not about any particular type being wrong or right, it's about at what point does it become self-defeating?

You all may know that I love to geek out with the best of them... think of the Dark Sith as Self-Centered and the Jedi as self-absorbed. We all tend to see our world in terms of good and evil, and everything would be so easy if it was that simple. But it's not, it is not white or black it's all grey. And the closer you get to the black or white areas the better the chances are that you are not out of balance. Which is why the Sith have the rule of two, because there is no room for more or others. The Jedi fell because their purist vision of the world led them to neglect themselves and others on emotional and physcial level. They got too caught in their own vison of how the world should be, they lost sight of what it honestly was. Until too it was too late.

Is this not the story of our dating life's

Self-Centered- I as a man meet a woman, and I think how much she could impact my life in a positive way... but again, I am only thinking that in terms of the effects it has on me, and how it aligns with my wants and needs.

Self-Absorbed- The woman seems to be oblivious to my needs or wants, because she views right and wrong through her own lens and rejects without understanding those that do not share her vision.

But the issue with this is on some level we all do this, and we all know the Dark and Light are rather small and confiding places to live, and the grey is largely vast and unknown, and that is scary. So, we tend to strive to reach that light or hide in the dark.... instead of thriving in the large and unknow of the grey. Stepping outside our comfort zone, and comprehending the world we live in as being different from the one we would want to be live in.

Strive to be kind and generous in all that you do, but I do what you do for your own reasons, regardless of how oblivious you are to the ramifications it could have on others. Because 90% of rest that live within the unknown areas beyond your level of comprehension. So, open yourself to the possibilities, that no matter how large or small your planet is... it's a lot bigger than you can possibly imagine. All those things that are there for the finding, will only be found by those that seek to see it.

I have dated a lot of women, and either I am Self-Centered, or they are Self-Absorbed. What's the difference and what is worse?
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