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21 year old Black girl here. Throughout most of my life I've been mostly attracted to other Black girls, but also really anyone with darker skin. They didn't necessarily have to be EXACTLY as dark as me, but someone you can look at and say like "yes they're a shade of brown or tan, looks like they could tan easily" and not "yes they're completely pasty white and pale, looks like they'll just burn easily." Which to me normally meant I wasn't attracted to White girls, unless they were biracial/mixed and therefore not completely White anyway.

However... more or less recently, I realized that with TANNED White girls it's a completely different story. I first realized this with one of my White friends who in the winter was completely pale like a stereotypical Goth who avoids the sun at all costs, but in the summer suddenly gained a beautiful golden brown tan like a stereotypical preppy girl who absolutely loves pools and beaches. My physical attraction to her went from I kid you not: basically 0 to 100. It's not like she looked bad when she was very pale, she was in fact still very pretty, she just didn't do anything for me. But with her skin a beautiful golden brown color... oh yes. She just looked so... for the lack of better words, "HOT." Like someone who isn't afraid to go out and run around in the sun.

Since then I've tried to see if this was something exclusive to just my friend, or just a general thing... and it turned out to be a general thing. Whenever I saw a completely pale White girl, no attraction... an at least slightly tanned one though? Oh boy...

There's nothing wrong with completely pale skin, and I realize tanning can be quite unhealthy, especially if extreme... but it's just a physical attraction thing.

I attached 3 pictures to show the type of thing I mean. As you can see, none of the 3 women are COMPLETELY pale. They all seem to obviously get some sun. Good view of the thighs too. Not just a tan face and arms.

Mine is my dad & in a way I feel bad about feeling this way towards him. He’s a good person but out of everyone in my life he’s always annoyed me the most I lose my patience quickly. I think it stems from when I was younger, my mom divorced him after cheating & I feel like he took his frustration out on me. I’m his only child & my parents are good friends, he lives in another state but I get irritated when he calls too much. It’s known that his side of the family is shitty, he’s single (by choice) & my moms family has always pointed out that I’m all he has which is too much pressure to me. Back in HS/college he used to take his frustration out on me even living in another state & one day I cut all contact with him. We didn’t talk for 3 years & since speaking again we’ve been on good terms. I just lose my patience with him so quickly, he asks the same questions over again & it’s like he thinks he looks cute playing clueless every once in a while. My mom said he does that with me bc he doesn’t know what else to talk about with me, what if I was married or had a man? Would I still be expected to make sure I’m at his beckoning call? I don’t know if I can ever move past this 🫣