He wants me to change things in my appearance?

[Anonymous]

He told me that he would hug me but I'm wearing makeup up and that i shouldn't be wearing it every day. I told him that i don't mind taking it off. So i took off my make up and he said i look better like that. Okay so far nothing that bad. I get that you don't like things getting messy or that you prefer kissing clear skin. Totally fine. Then he asked me if i wear hair extensions. I said that i do and he said " why? Why are you wearing all that thing on your head" but in not such a nice way. I told him that my natural hair are long enough but curly and i do leave them naturally all the time but i personally prefer straight hair so i change them like that some times. He said "why you don't like curly hair? I like them!"Keep in mind that he approached me with my hair straight and even complimented them. Someone could assume they are extensions because there really long. Anyways i just didn't like his way because i started using extensions when i was struggling with anorexia and i was losing my hair. So I used to be so insecure with my hair and so uncomfortable when people would comment about me wearing extensions. Like mind your own business, do i have to explain you that my hair has fallen off because I'm starving myself? Now my hair are really healthy and i do like them , i just like doing my hair. I would like to know what you think about that, especially guys? I do get that you may want to see what a girl looks like completely naturally but you can ask her in a nice way without making any comments especially when you don't even know her that well. Like i just met this man and I'm supposed to change my make up, my hair... what's next? Isn't that kinda controling?

[ChillaxingLove]

When you’re a boyfriend or girlfriend there are certain things you have no right trying to change someone on. Until you’re married to your girlfriend or boyfriend certain things they either accept or leave. Never try to change someone. And never try to change for anyone you don’t love unconditionally. Girlfriend and boyfriend status is a test drive to see if it’s a relationship that can last or not. I don’t rent a car and start hanging pictures in it, it’s not mine. When I buy the car then I can make it personal.

[SnowedIn]

Be done with him.

Don't be with people who don't like who you are. (And, as a side note, you wrote "so far nothing bad" with regard to the make up. yeah. That's bad. Wanting you to change anything is bad.)

[NotTacocaT6969]

He literally wants you to do the opposite of change things about your appearance.


Makeup, hair extensions, all of it is fake bullshit that makes you look like someone you are not.


Real men do not want to date fake women.

[Asker]

Well I've been with "real men" before and they never had problem with that especially when they realised that I'm not obsessing over them and i can do both. So my hair being a few centimetres longer and mascara makes me look like a whole different person? I have guys hitting on me on the gym with a baggy t shirt, sweaty and when i have nothing on, so i know I'm attractive either way i just choose to make some extra effort some times that's all.

[EmmaMary]

For fuck's sake why haven't you shown this pathetic controlling lowlife the door?BIG RED FLAG.

[Asker]

Lol i agree but for a moment i thought i was overreacting!

[EmmaMary]

I can assure you are most certainly NOT overreacting... Dump him and move on swiftly, time is of the essence... Good Luck.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Pyrofox]

I feel like you've been diluted by the left side of society. Most guys aren't interested in catfish. They just want the natural girl. It's simple as that.

[Wise4myage]

If you look up the definition of a controlling person, this dudes mug shot would appear.