Why do stranger men feel the need to criticize your appearance?

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I know, I shouldn’t pay attention and I am guilty of not ignoring, I promise I’ll ignore next time, but this time, I’ll share my thoughts

I have lots of things I like or dislike in myself, I don’t have an illusion that I am perfect, I am far from it, however, something that I feel very secure about is my body, I like it and wouldn’t change my figure for anything else.

I know, I am not everyone’s type, but not everyone is my type either, so I don’t mind it.

Unlike many girls with smaller breast, I have never felt insecure of my breast, I have always been very happy and lucky about their shape and looks, also size.

Now I know, some like it bigger and some like it smaller but I am who I am and I like it this way.

I don’t go around telling people how they look bad in my opinion. I also, don’t go around telling men their shoulders aren’t broad or their legs are too slim or etc…

I always try to make people feel confident about who they are and I try to say something good or not say anything at all.

However, I’ve noticed from my and other women’s experience, that sometimes men try to criticize you about your appearance totally randomly and unnecessarily.

Why do men do that and what do they try to get?

Don’t all of you want to make love with the lights on eventually?

So, why try to make women feel insecure about something?

At the end of the day I know my breast is smaller and I am still going to be happy with them.

However, I wonder what these men are trying to get?

Why do stranger men feel the need to criticize your appearance?

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

I call this the "drowning man syndrome." Picture this. Someone is drowning in the ocean, and you swim out to rescue that person. As you approach the person, what will that person do? Most people answer that the drowning person will try to drown you. Does that make any sense? What would be gained by drowning the rescuer? Actually, when we are in a panic situation, we tend to revert to earliest memories or instinct. One of your earliest memories was realizing you could go up by pushing down. The drowning person doesn't want you to go down... that person wants to go up. When you go down, they actually get upset with you.

Now, back to the "drowning man syndrome." When people feel insecure, they tend to push down on others, in an attempt at pushing themselves up. Unfortunately, it doesn't give them more than a momentary boost, which doesn't stick. Thinking it will eventually stick, they continue the inconsiderate, dysfunctional behavior. People who feel secure about themselves will never be in your face. Picture people who continue this behavior as wearing a large flashing neon sign around their neck, stating "I'M INSECURE!!!" Never accept other people's problems as yours.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

Don’t mind them.

As mentioned before, they’re acting out of their insecurity.

By criticizing others arbitrarily, it gives them a false sense of superiority.

This is just to offset their deep-seated sense of inferiority.

It’s like the mentality of: “She’s not all that. I mean look at her. She [insert whatever criticism they can think of to decrease her value in his eyes].”

Men like that also do that to other men.

Like if they see a guy in a nice car, they’re the type to think, “Oh, I bet he’s a douchebag.”

Or about a man that is wealthy and has a girlfriend, they may say things like, “They’re only with him for his money. I’d have women too if I had the money.”

Basically just tearing down people they barely know, just to feel better about themselves.

It’s a destructive coping mechanism, and it says much more about them than about you.

You have nothing to worry about.

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

a lot of men think their opinion needs to be shared and just haven't got the maturity to realise that in reality, their opinion means nothing.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Don't let men talk to you like that on here. Report and block them.

Still-alive · Answer

Definitely don't let it get to you. if this is some random dude dm'ing you then i suggest going into your settings and ticking the box that says 'only allow people i follow to message me' and you won't get those weirdo's in your dm's anymore.

This guy looks like a low xper level which to me indicates he's a troll and this is likely not his only account or has even been banned multiple times and this is yet another one of his. i just ignore and block em. i report them too under 'spamming' and usually they are gone the next day.

spartan55 · Answer

I honestly don't know what guys who do that shit are thinking. I always look at them as the scum of the dating pool.

Rohaan2020 · Answer

It’s not that only men do that… there are both men and women who try to make other insecure about themselves and again there are both genders who make others feel good about themselves…. And yes such people only want to show that they have a sort of standards or something… or they have better choices or whatever…. U can just ignore these people and do nothing about it bcz somewhere these people aren’t happy with themselves either… they want to feel good abou themselves only by criticising others

Sevenpointfive · Answer

are you asking them to criticize it? if not that's weird

msc545 · Answer

You have experienced the displaced anger that many men feel. Most men I know are fairly angry at women in general, and they do things like you have described to unconsciously wxpress those feelings.

Wallythewalrus · Answer

That's shit you learn not to do in graded school. There is absolutely no way saying something like that can be simply explained away. It was said with the intention of being a dick.

zagor · Answer

So do men actually come up to you in public and make comments about your breasts? I can't imagine me, or just about any guy I know, doing something like that to a stranger.

Yes, I know the stereotypes of blue-collar workers who hoot at women on the street, but I don't think they are usually that specific.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I liked your breasts in one of your photos. You reminded me of my ex girlfriend. I made her forget all about size. I would lick/suck one and could hang my hat on the other, she was so aroused. Must have been the dimples 😁

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

Maybe he's embarrassed that his boobs are a lot bigger than yours.

clampfan101 · Answer

If you can’t say anything nice,(or constructive criticism), don’t say anything at all. I’m glad you’re secure with your body. I think you look lovely, and love breasts of any size.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

They like you. They’re just jealous and insecure. Never let anyone make you feel bad about your breasts. Nuggets are golden. ♥️

Jennz6 · Answer

Feel good about yourself

Alex8736 · Answer

They are insecure of their own

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

That seems somewhat out of the blue.

pink-jilly · Answer

That’s a backhanded compliment.

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