This happens to me, from time to time. Sometimes I feel quite confident about myself. On those days:
- I am 100% OK with the way I look
- I feel like a good member of the given community (say, in the office, coffee machine gang etc)
- I trust that people enjoy my company, they're happy to have me around
- I approach people with confidence
- Words come easy, I easily come up with topics to discuss, small talks etc.
- In general I am self confident
Other times, however, for apparent reason all the above is reverse:
- I don't somehow like the way I look. I can easily spot "errors" in the mirror when I look at myself (my hair does not look good enough, my skin is just not somehow right, my face is weird, I'm big etc)
- I feel like I don't actually add much to the community where I am physically present.
- I fear that people rather dislike me, have negative thoughts about me (even though I have no idea why they would do so.
- I am reluctant to meet people and prefer to avoid social situations if possible. I look awkward and who knows, maybe I have bad breath (even though I brush my teeth 2x a day). Did my period come early again, do I have a stain on me, do I maybe even smell (? even though it's not even summer and I took shower deodorant perfume, punched a whole new hole in the ozone layer (🤣)( etc))
- I'm afraid to start conversations, maybe people don't find my things not so interesting and I just needlessly bug them.
- I feel like a teenager with absolute lack of self confidence lol. I can always explain why I am at the wrong place. I have a stone in my stomach. People are judging me.
This seems to alter randomly. Like, depends on what day I woke up to. I might seem to look for self-validation all the time..