How can I start to love myself and stop having anxiety and feeling so insecure?

[crazycactus242]

I’m a healthy individual. I’m 5’7 and blonde you’d think I’d have lots of confidence because I shouldn’t worry about anything. My boyfriend dropped me off last night and I straight up just looked at him and said, “I literally can’t stop worrying about my body.” And he just looked at me and said, “you don’t need to. I promise.” Even after that I still continued to worry. My boyfriend is getting himself a gym membership very soon and I’m not getting one just cause that’s not exactly my thing, and I’m healthy as I am. However, the thought of it for whatever reason gives me severe anxiety and I’m not sure why. When I’m at school I only talk to my 2 closest friends. My best friend who I’ve known most of my life and my boyfriend. It is extremely hard for me to talk to anyone else. I have severe social anxiety and I just keep to myself a lot of the time. I’ve also noticed lately that I just feel upset all the time, and I want to be a happy bubbly girl I don’t want to be upset. But some days I’ll be so cranky that I’ll get easily triggered by my boyfriend or my friends or anyone. The main idea is this, I don’t want to lay awake at night having pure anxiety wondering if I am enough, I don’t want to have to worry. I know that it’s all in my head but I want to get rid of it all. I want to realize that I have worth as a person and I don’t know how.

[TonyMetal___86]

Well you already have posted photos of yourself in here and i remember you well since i i have the power to never forget anything that passes in front of me...

Your the graduate blondie girl, you showed us your graduation photos in color and in black and white also you have posted photos of yourself before the graduation and after graduation and the last ones o saw were posted like couple of days ago and i always tell you that your sweet petite pretty girl...

If you have a boyfriend than the power of love must make you always relaxed and happy knowing that there is someone who loves you and will be there for you and if he see you as a beautiful girl than it's enough and if you look at yourself in the mirror, you must be aware that your pretty and a lot better than many insta fake girls or anywhere else, that's a gift from god, you must be thankfull and not anxious...

Seek for a hobbie that you like and start doing it so you don't a lot anymore about yourself because all your thoughts are wrong and your just exhausting yourself for nothing...

If you were ugly or needed anything to be done to your body, i would have told you but why would i lie to you and tell you to do something whike you need nothing, i can tell you only about my opinion because maybe other guys have a different taste but mine is just like that, your the type of girls that i like because they are natural...

So just relax and be happy, last time i told you that you can add some weigth to your body but it ain't necessary, also not wrong if you want to...

Have a nice day 😊

[crazycactus242]

Thankyou!!

[TonyMetal___86]

Your welcome, by the way there is a girl who resembles like you and she plays the guitar 😄

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rV6SmY04WdE

[Avcfhcic]

It's something that isn't that easy to cure. It requires you to accept who you are, to know that you are you and that's it. Whether you need an ear to listen to your problems , such as friends or your boyfriend, or whether you need to talk to a professional and get medical intervention.
If you don't want to detail what is getting you down publically feel free to message me. But you need to write down what it is and work from there!!

[crazycactus242]

Thanks!!

[Avcfhcic]

You're welcome, my messages are always open to help!
I think it's you that is making you worry by not feeling good enough or the need to look pretty 24/7, they are additional sources of stress you are creating for yourself and it's unnecessary!
You have a loving boyfriend and a family. Based on your photo here, you look great and many women envy you for that.
Keep the head up and work on you !!!

[EmmaMary]

Might I suggest that you seek out getting some therapy treatment, before you become extremely ill.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[Staximus]

There is nothing wrong with asking for help when you can't solve a problem, especially one that effects your life like this. Maybe you should talk to a psychologist, but make sure it's a good one. Not just some bozo who says "take these pills and call me a few days", but somebody who will try to really figure out what's going on in your head and help you fix it. Maybe try meditation and relaxation exercises in the meantime. Stop and ask yourself why you are feeling like this. I have bad thoughts about myself all the time. One day I just thought "what is thinking or feeling bad about myself accomplishing? Nothing. It's fucking up my life. Do I want a fucked up life? No."
Your will to be good to yourself and do the right thing for yourself has to be stronger than your thoughts and feelings. If you can't get a hold of those bad feelings and thoughts, just ask for help. Don't be ashamed.

[Staximus]

You should also go to the gym with your boyfriend. Run on the treadmill, exercise bike, the elliptical machine, stair stepper, swim, go in the sauna, hit a punching bag. Burn of some of that piss and vinegar and frustration. Exercise is a great stress reliever and will help you sleep if you make your body tired. Drink at least half a gallon of water every day. Dehydration and lack of exercise cause anxiety.

[Staximus]

Take an aerobics class or aerobics at home, do yoga

[Cubus]

If I can ask: how long do you feel like this? When did it started?

[crazycactus242]

I always felt a little insecure of myself, but never had pure anxiety over it until within these past couple weeks or so. However, my social anxiety and just being shy in general probably started way back in the beginning of high school. Within the past couple months my insecurities started to spike out of nowhere. I would constantly be looking in the mirror and judge myself. I wouldn’t be eating enough. I felt like I constantly had to pay to get my nails done and hair done to be “pretty” and it started to spike then. My boyfriend tells me how special I am and how pretty I am and how lucky he is to have me, and I wish I saw what he saw. I’m tired of beating myself up for no reason.

[Cubus]

Can I PM with you?

[crazycactus242]

Sure!!

[Hangry06]

I think you need therapy

[Jmmmfi4]

Everyone feels like this at time