Search Results: what girls want to hear

Please be honest although I'd appreciate it if you weren't rude, I just want to see what the results are and hear some feedback from the female perspective. Essentially the point blank of it is I'm not even close to an appealing partner.

I live off less than $1000 a month before rent if I lost all my spare weight & trimmed my beard, I am MAYBE a 5 out of 10 in looks. I wouldn't say I'm ugly but saying I'm attractive is just pity or comforting flattery and I know it.

I struggle a lot with mental health & depression & have enough baggage from multiple traumatic events to fill a C-130. I'm ADHD, OCD & Bipolar and even on my best days it shows. I'm medicated & in therapy but there's limits in certain cases to how much you can change because a lot of it is chemical because my body chemistry is all messed up.

My brain often bounces between giving me way too much dopamine & not giving me any which makes it hard to keep my emotions stable. Obviously its stressful not just for me but the people who have to see it & I have problems with my speech patterns being too loud on accident even when I try not to and aware of it. I also have a robbery felony from a guy I was lied to about him being an attempted rapist. "Vigilante justice situation but she lied."

The one thing going for me is I try to be a good person & make sure to focus on my partner to make sure I meet their emotional needs not just their physical ones. In the past when I've attempted dating, I've done things like bring flowers made picnic baskets personally to go on a lunch date in the park etc. There have been times where I listened to woman cry comforting them 6 days a week from 10PM-3AM on days I was busy running off 2-4 hours of sleep for literal months.

Basically, I'm average or bellow in every way except for the fact I'll do everything I possibly can to be the best partner I can, stand up for them & make sure they feel truly loved & valued. That's it. That's what I bring to the table. Love and respect.

I would love to be in a relationship, marry and have kids. But:

When you hear any girl talk about what they look for, it’s all superficial….6’4, handsome, fit, makes over 100k, nice car. Women will never say something nice.

Women complain about men not being loyal because they chase the men every woman want and then wonder. You would never give a guy at Starbucks a chance.

When a guy/girl shows interest in you romantically, does that make that person seem less attractive.

I have heard some women say they go crazy for men that don’t want them. I guess it’s that thing if wanting something you can’t have.

For example, a dark skinned girl asks, "do you like dark-skinned girls?"

Or a Chinese girl asks, "do you like Chinese girls?"

When it comes to ethnicity/skin tone, I always say that I really don't care. If I find her physically attractive and she has an amazing personality, I wouldn't be able to say no. This is the complete truth, but I'm wondering if she'd rather hear, "yes, I love dark-skinned girls" or "Chinese girls"

Or if a tall girl asks, "do you like tall girls?"

For this one though I'd answer a bit differently. I'd still be being honest but I think height is an interesting one because the vast majority of guys prefer shorter, and women usually are a good amount shorter, so it really is just the normal thing. However some are clearly in different circumstances.

I'd be very genuine by saying something like "I usually prefer shorter girls but if she looks good and has an amazing personality, how can I say no?" Do you think she'd rather hear "yes I love tall girls"?

For those who are unaware, I just want to point out that these examples illustrate the differences between male and female perspective on dating. Men might have strong preferences but women are more likely to have strict requirements for measurable standards such as height.

Some other examples:

"do you like thick girls?"

"Do you like girls with small boobs?"

I want to have 4 kids that’s my target, 5 max although.

I have heard of women 30 struggling to have kids all the time but also a girl that is 26 who miscarries a lot.

I am 26 what girl should I aim for as I want to date for a year then marry.
Why do people struggle so much these days?

If you’re all around average physically and life. Does the world care about your existence? For women they do, but for men I look them and sometimes I wonder do any girls even notice they were in the room?

You commonly hear how women all want the top 10% of men. Being average nowadays with social media doesn’t cut it. It’s sadly only women that are exempt from this. I’ve seen less attractive girls cycle between guys, how bad is that.