Guys, should I unsend or write something else, also advice?

[Anonymous]

I asked him hi how are you doing to which he said bad!

I wrote I'm sorry I'm here if you want to talk 🫂

He saw that 17hrs ago hasn't been active since I then wrote about my mom having double eye surgery Wednesday and that I just miss him haven't heard from him at all since early December.

And this text:

"I want to know if you started college, finally know your warehouse schedule and if it's more set time wise. I know work and alone time is important for you rn but I wanna make time for you, in a comfortable setting where you won't feel triggered, overwhelmed or stressed.

( he's fragile and can't handle much alcholic not healthy exc we make plans he's introverted and he drops the ball a lot )

If ever you wanted to you can set up the uber for me so it's on your time instead of me being pushy. That's an idea too.
I don't know your actual address but here's ( my address )

Other then that I don't wanna overwhelm you anymore.

( I'm an anxious texter and knew and have been friends for a long time... it's hard when he's nervous he smokes/drinks to calm down. There's reasons he does that stuff he's 27 I'm clean he started in hs hasn't dated anyone since hs but he was trying for a emotional and physical connection with me but he says everything hurts and says it's hard to look at a girl seeing the hurt back at him. But I don't wanna give up on him I miss him.

So my question is should I leave it at this how should I deal with a guy who drops the ball or flakes not because he doesn't like me but because he's struggling and I know I can't help him.

Advice? And guys have you felt similar to this guy alcholic / Co dependent or not? Did you like the girl but maybe also not ready how can I also communicate better feel like I'm maybe screwing up. I don't know.

[hafinjun]

Bet he has been

[Asker]

What should I do, have you ever been through this

[hafinjun]

Yes I have been through it twice. His telling you "bad" and not saying more is a ridiculous ploy. And I don't know what the game is. You say you know you can't help him, in my opinion he doesn't care about you. I assume he's not getting professional help, if that's true , he wants you to feel bad for him, but then shuts you out.
If you know your unable to help, and he's not getting help elsewhere, it's my opinion that your setting yourself up for heartbreak. You can still be his friend, but you need to accept he's not about you. and probably won't ever be. find someone who makes you feel special.
If you want to talk privately, message me. ill tell you my experienes if youd like.

[Asker]

Just messaged you