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What Men Desire In a Woman

What Men Desire In a Woman

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Y'all ready to get triggered by yet another one of HawkPerception's MyTakes? 😂

I feel a better name for this MyTake would have been What I Desire In a Woman. But let's be honest, no one really gives 💩 about that. I personally BELIEVE these apply to most men, however I'm well aware that every man has different preferences for women, and that's where my disclaimer comes in:

Disclaimer: I do not speak for all men. All of these are my opinions of what I think the MAJORITY of men want in a woman.

Now that that's outta the way, let's get into it!

Firstly, there needs to be PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. I'm not saying you have to be a model or anything. But MOST men desire a woman that they're at least somewhat physically attracted to. A woman that takes care of herself and values her health, appearance, and hygiene. Being overweight is not an attractive trait to most men. But as long as you are putting in HONEST EFFORT, we will appreciate and respect you. And no, even after you get pregnant, it doesn't mean you suddenly have an overweight pass. Don't make excuses like "Hormones change after you get pregnant." We're all aware that hormones change after getting pregnant. But then why are there are many women that are over the age of 40 with children that have stunning bodies? You might argue that it's genetics, and for some that may be true. We're not all born equal. (Some of you may fight me on that too). But for the vast majority, the reason why anyone has a decent body is due to being consistent with diet and exercise or a healthy active lifestyle. Not by overindulging with food whenever you have a craving.

I think we can all agree that appearance is not the most important thing in a person. So no one better come after me giving me the "Everyone is beautiful in their own way." BS. I'm talking strictly about physical attraction here. Not inner beauty.

Inner Beauty

Next up, we have FEMININITY. Men don't want to compete with women trying to be men. We don't care about your independence. We don't care about how much you make. Sure in this 💩 economy we might need someone that helps out financially and pays half the bills as solo income is often not enough anymore, but we'll never look down on a woman for making less. And if we have enough to provide for everyone, we're usually more than happy to do so.

There's too many women out there saying they can do everything a man can. They can't (physically at least anyways). Women have to put in much more effort than men to accomplish the same tasks that require physical strength or endurance. That's not sexist. It's just a simple biological fact. I'm not saying every woman is physically weaker than every man, but the vast majority of women are weaker than the vast majority of men.

Sure, women can do jobs like being a car mechanic or trades jobs like carpentry, electrical, plumbing, etc, but they don't generally choose those jobs or have any knowlege about them. Those are heavily male dominated fields.

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Nothing makes a man happier than feeling useful. We don't want a girl saying "I can do it, I CAN DO IT! Leave me alone!" Men want a woman that wants us to get the jar lid off, wants help assembling furniture, wants the guy to lift the heavy things for her, wants to be helped down ledges, etc. It's much more attractive when a girl is receptive to help than when she rejects it. It makes us men feel needed and capable, no matter how small the task may be. And if she shows she's grateful after the help, we'll fall for her all over again.

What Men Desire In a Woman

Then there's also FEMININITY IN THE WAY YOU DRESS. Now this is extremely subjective as there are definitely men out there that prefer women that dress tomboyish, but dresses are generally more attractive to men than tomboy fashion/style.

We want KINDNESS & WARMTH (a nurturing and affectionate nature), PLAYFULNESS & LIGHTHEARTEDNESS (a sense of humor, a fun attitude, and the ability to enjoy life), SUPPORT & ENCOURAGEMENT (someone who uplifts rather than criticizes... this one's extremely important in my opinion), EMOTIONAL STABILITY (can manage their emotions maturely and avoid unneccessary drama), and RESPECT (someone who respects our values and choices).

BODY COUNT MATTERS. PAST MATTERS.

What Men Desire In a Woman

MOST men that have any self-respect don't want to be the good guy that ends up with the girl that's been with 20 guys or more before him. And I'm not saying that it's right for men to sleep around either. The standard should be the same. If you've slept with 20 or more people, then you shouldn't expect your partner to have a low body count. That's insanity. There's also many studies that show the more sexual partners someone has (both men and women), the more likely they are to cheat or for their relationship to not work out. Everyone should be held accountable for their actions and if you had a hoe phase in life, the fact of the matter is that you'll be valued less in the dating market and your pool of potential prospects will be limited. Sure you can lie about the number of people you've been with to get through the door, but a relationship built on lies will never have a strong foundation. Having the integrity to be honest is an extremely important factor in any relationship.

Now I come to communication. COMMUNICATION IS KEY. We've all heard it before, but I can't stress it enough. Men are not mind readers and we hope you won't treat us like we can. State what's on your mind so we can address it and come to a solution for the issue or at the very least, a compromise. Also, communicate where you're going to be and who you're going out with. Trust is built over time. It's not an instant thing we have for people. Yes, we're all grown people that have some level of independence, but if you want your partner to have peace of mind and you know that the way to give them that is to communicate often, why not do that? It doesn't take much to tell them your plans for the day, where you'll be and who you'll be with. I can promise you that if you update your man with those details when possible, he will most definitely appreciate you and feel grateful he has a woman as open and honest as you.

Another factor is EFFORT IN PHYSICAL INTIMACY. Men don't want to be the one's initiating all the time. WE WANT TO FEEL DESIRED as well and when it's always us initiating physical intimacy, it can feel one sided and like a bit of a chore. It can get draining pretty fast and kill sex life.

A lot of women are gonna come after me for this one, but I think that you should not only have sex just when you feel like it. It's not about rape or anything, so I don't wanna hear anything about that. At the end of the day, you should always respect your partner's boundaries and not go and do something to them that they don't want. But if you love your partner, and know they're in the mood, wouldn't you want to satisfy them? When you deny sex, it makes your partner feel unattractive and undesired. If you DO find them attractive, is it really that hard to get yourself in the mood? If my partner is feeling it and I'm not (which believe it or not DOES happen to men), then I'd still try to get myself in the mood and due the deed to satisfy their needs. I don't think that's a torturous task or anything. If anything, I would feel happy I was able to fulfill them. I feel like too many women nowadays weaponize sex and use it as a reward. And don't get me wrong. There WILL be days where you're too exhausted and not feeling it, but it shouldn't be more often than not. If it is, then there's definitely something up in how you're feeling in the relationship and the gap between you and your partner will continue to increase.

Posting provocative content on social media is an unattractive trait and red flag. Men do the approaching most of the time. And women put themselves in a position to be approached most of the time. There's a saying. "Men are salesmen and women are marketers. That's why in a relationship men should stop pitching and women should stop advertising."

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Men will almost always prefer women that DRESS CONSERVATIVELY. That means not displaying their body figure to the general public from the shape of their butt to the shape of their cameltoe. It displays a level of class that's rare nowadays more than ever. I don't care what anyone says... if a girl is dressing like that, it's definitely not for herself like many women will claim.

The last and most important thing I want to talk about is loyalty. Not the loyalty you can buy with money. UNWAVERING LOYALTY. The type where the woman would sleep with you under a bridge if it comes down to that.

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When a woman is able to show this level of UNWAVERING FAITH & COMMITMENT, that is the type of woman a guy would go to war and die for, knowing that when we come home, there's a woman that will always be there for us. A woman that loves and cherishes us. A woman that will never betray us. A woman that gives us peace of mind.

What Men Desire In a Woman

Now I'm sure that I've missed some points, so feel free to add any, but I feel like I got most of the stuff that was at the top of my head. Share your thoughts!

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