If you give most men sex too fast, they will think you are a slut.
If you hold out on sex too long, then most will think you are a prude.
What is a young lady to do?
I have come to the conclusion, that most men want a woman who is well-balanced.
What does that mean?
It means a woman who doesn't sleep with a man so fast that his impression of her changes.
It also means a woman who doesn't hold out on sex so long, that she makes the man feel as if he is wasting his time.
THE "SLUTTY" WOMAN
A woman that sleeps with a man in a short amount of time has got him raising questions to himself:
"If she slept with me this fast, I wonder how many other men she has done the same with?", he will ponder.
From the beginning point, assumptions are drawn about this young lady's character:
- This woman must not value her body.
- This woman must be promiscuous.
- This woman must have a high amount of sex partners.
These are all thoughts that may flood his head.
There now has been an invisible label attached to this woman, based on the actions she decided to exhibit.
It's very possible, this woman was caught up in the moment and doesn't usually engage in sex with men right away. But like they say, first impressions are lasting impressions.
A lot of people hate judgment or labels, but in order to function as a human-being, we must use judgment in order to caution ourselves. Judgment is almost like an instinct. Through any aspect in life, we must use it in order to evaluate each and every situation (this works as a guidance to avoid trouble. It tells us if things/people are safe enough to proceed with).
Of course, not every man will view a woman in a negative light if she is that type of woman, but those that view sex has sacred, most likely will. These are typically men who have a low count of sex partners. Each experience they choose to share with one is extremely meaningful to them.
On the contrary though,
There are men with a fair amount of sex partner's that feel this way as well. Some of them have had their fun of playing out in the field and bedding different women.
But would most of these men ever consider being in a serious committed relationship with a girl that is possibly the same as them? The answer is no.
Some people may find this to be hypocritical.
This further reinforces the double standard that men can be promiscuous but women cannot.
THE "PRUDISH" WOMAN
A woman that holds off on sex too long, has got some men feeling as if their relationship is at a stand still.
"Will things be like this forever?", a man may ask himself.
A relationship is all about growth and development. If a considerable amount of time has passed and there isn't any indication that progress has been made, then what would make this guy want to stay?
- How can he be certain that you really love him?
- How can he be certain that you are not using him?
- How can he be sure that he is "the one" you want to eventually share intimacy with?
Sure, some men are willing to stick around wait, especially if they are a virgin themselves or one who withstains from sex for a great amount of time.
But ladies, if this is the path you choose please let a man have reassurance that the both of you, will eventually get to a point where you will experience the joy of sexual freedom with each other.
- Be honest and open with this guy.
- Let him know why you are waiting, and exactly what for.
- Do not be dismissive when the subject comes up or agitated.
THE WELL BALANCED WOMAN
This is the type of woman I feel most men want. She is very relatable in nature. She lets it be known that she has a strong desire for the man of her choice. She creates a reasonable set of boundaries, which does not allow the guy to draw negativity about her sexuality. She gives sex to the man but it's not so fast that he will think negatively of her, and it's not too long, to where he will wonder where things are going.She is very direct in nature. The man usually has no questions about her approach. The relationship blossoms at a reasonable pace.
A lot of these "types" of women are defined by a string of words that are bought together by ones vocabulary. It's very possible, these women are not an accurate representation of themselves.
The "prudish woman" could very well be the "slutty woman" in disguise. (She sleeps with every one, but makes it seem as if she wants to take things slow with the man she is trying to pursue).
The "slutty woman" could very well be the "well-balanced woman" in disguise. (This woman has a sexual past but with some change in her life, she is nowing leaning towards making choices opposite of what she used to).
The fact of the matter is, what you see isn't always what you get.
Yes, there are flaws in assumption but a lot of the times they hold very valid accuracy.
- Men, what kind of woman do you want when you are looking to pursue someone?
- Ladies, what category do you believe you fall in? Do men often get the wrong impression of you because of the way you present yourself to them?